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Simon Heong (Personal Email) <simonhg1806@gmail.com>
Date: Tue, Aug 7, 2012 at 10:35 AM
Subject: When A Woman Pushes You Away, Do This Jorge
Hi Jorge,
>>> Question From Rob P, SA:
Hi Simon, just like you said, I have been using C's alpha man
persuasion and conversation, for a little over a week now, and it
has almost rectified a sour situation.
I live in Chile, South America. I have lived here for about
a month and a half. I have been dating this GORGEOUS 23 year
old. Yes, I know red flag because she's still a little young
and doesn't quite know what she wants yet. Also she has only
been in one other relationship before me, for like 5 years,
and it ended like 3 months ago.
Everything was going fantastic until a week ago... [We had a
one night stand.] She broke down crying and said she had
many problems with her heart still (in spanish of course)
from the previous relationship. It was quite the bummer.
Now since then we have gone from that to slowing down, to
full on dating again, yet she is still hesistant to have the
type of close encounters that led up to the night that
changed everything.
I don't understand this. The sexual tension is so strong
some times you could cut it with a knife. I have tons of
rapport, I can make her laugh always, I'm definitely an
alpha man, and I'm wondering if there's anything I can do
to help win her emotions over, finally and fully.
I have been talking to and dating other women, so I haven't
put all my eggs in one basket with this one.
What should I do?
>>> My Comments:
I really like getting questions like this from around the
globe, because it only points out just how consistent women
are in behavior, no matter what country.
And it's nice to know that C's Alpha Conversation Program
can cross language barriers, too!
(You can check it out and get yours here):
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Also, when it comes to dealing with younger women, they
are definitely different, much more different than what
you think they can be -- download this and you'll see
what I mean:
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Now, for your problem, let me tell you a story you'll
understand...
A few years back, I bought a very expensive plasma screen
television. I'm not going to advertise how much I spent,
but it was more than some people pay for their cars. (I'm
a movie nut, and I like a big screen for my home
theater.)
Well, I did a lot of research, and then I ordered it
online.
About an hour after the transaction went through, I felt
this panic overtake me...
"Did I do the right thing?"
"I shouldn't have done that..."
"Can I afford this?"
"I should cancel the order..."
This is commonly referred to as "buyer's remorse."
One of the most common reactions a person will feel
after making a big purchase is the "oh, crap... I
shouldn't have done that" feeling.
After the impulse to buy has been satisfied, the
emotional hole leaves all kinds of room for regret to
sneak in and take you over.
The same exact feeling happens to a woman who has
slept with a guy. Even more so if she has not had
much time to get to know him and really establish
a firm sense of trust.
She's wondering:
"Did I do the right thing?"
"Hmmm... I shouldn't have done that..."
"Can I afford to risk my heart on him?"
"I should break it off now..."
"Am I a slut?"
And the list goes on and on...
You have to realize that a woman's primary focus is
on her assurance of support if something were to
"happen" after she slept with you. Guys have a small
risk compared with a woman's risk of 9 months and
another mouth to feed.
(And that's why your remark about "putting your
eggs in one basket" is more true than you realize... :)
This girl was just in a relationship that lasted 5
YEARS, my friend. And she's only 3 months out of it.
She's going to have some intimacy issues until she's
over that one.
My first question for you is simply this: WHY do you
need to win her emotions over, "finally and fully"?
Is it because you just need to "conquer" this one girl?
Because I'm wondering if you are truly heeding the
voice in your head or the voice in your OTHER head.
You know she's young and inexperienced, and is very
unlikely to want to settle down right away. You know
she's very attractive and is a hot commodity. You know
she's got trust issues from a relationship that is
just barely over.
My thoughts?
You view HER as a prize because of her beauty, and
you're not in far enough to see that this girl also
has many liabilities. Maybe even more than her looks
can offset.
Remember, the single most important decision a man
will make is the woman he chooses as a partner. Most
guys spend less time selecting a woman than they do
their picks in fantasy football.
Don't be one of those guys, because you will live to
regret it.
Be more cautious with her.
Think in terms of DISqualification rather than just
doing everything you can to pull her into your life.
If you do that, you'll also find the side benefit
that she will probably be more likely to let you
into her "heart problems."
By the way, this is the standard excuse that a woman
will give you when she's really saying:
"We went too fast, and now I need to slam on the brakes.
But rather than make you feel rejected and risk feeling
like I was a 'bad girl' for what I did, I'll point the
blame at some mysterious 'heart problem.' so I can avoid
feeling bad."
I'm not being malicious towards women here.
In fact, I just got an email over the weekend from a
girlfriend of mine who has the same problem
with a guy in her life. Guys use this reason to push
women away, too.
Generally speaking, women usually don't have any issues
related to other guys when they talk about these "heart"
issues. It's just a convenient excuse that guys will
accept and not feel rejected after they hear it.
The point here is that you are probably addicted to the
challenge of "conquering" this hot woman than you are of
making a real relationship. Guys most often do this
when they feel that they're losing something valuable.
Even if that value was based solely on her appearance.
You're more afraid of losing her than you are actually
wanting the relationship.
Scarcity is tricking you, my friend.
Go make a list of all the other things she adds to your
life and I think you'll find that your pencil hardly
moves.
Go back to looking at all the other possibilities
you've got in your life right now, and let the woman
with the most desire and the "real deal" stand up and
wave her hands to be Ms. Right.
Let her get your attention and prove it to YOU.
Now if you genuinely want to go further with this woman,
here's where I suggest you get started. It sounds like
you have some of these taken care of, but maybe not
all in the right direction.
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THREE STEPS TO GET BACK WITH A WOMAN WHO PULLS AWAY:
1) YOU slow down the pace.
Now that you're back to dating regularly again, you
must be the one to demonstrate some doubt and put the
brakes on yourself.
Of course, in a lot of other dating situations, she
cools off and the guy is left desperately scrambling to
get her to even see him again, but either way, it calls
for some restraint.
I talk about this quite a bit in my programs, but your
best demonstration of strength and Alpha Confidence comes
when you show her that you have self-discipline and
self-control. It will then give her the space she needs
to desire you again.
Let me say this again, because it is such an important
concept:
A woman will want you again when she feels like there
is nothing pushing her to you.
It's a simple psychological principle that has worked
for me with EVERY woman that expressed hesitation about
getting together and getting physical. All you need to
do is give her the emotional experience of uncertainty
to re-awaken her desire.
Just say something like:
"You know, I've been thinking that maybe we're moving
forward pretty quick. I'd like to slow it down a little
and make sure we can just be friends first. You know
what I mean?"
This will relax her, and then you keep marching forward.
Of course we know that you never try to just be
"friends first" with a woman that you're intimately
connected to. It just doesn't work. But you want to
create the space for her to understand that you won't
be pressuring her.
This will create the space where you can then...
2) Establish trust and rapport.
The one thing she's looking for before she goes
forward with you physically is that she can TRUST you.
So you must show her that you are a reliable (but not
boring) guy.
Take her out with some friends of yours that you've
known for a while and are fun. I've found this a great
way to demonstrate my social value as well as get her
out of the same old mindset.
#1: Rapport is NOT equal to TRUST.
Rapport LEADS to trust, but does not guarantee it.
Rapport and trust are not exactly the same thing. It's
up to you to find out where her current trust issues
are and eliminate them.
Don't ask here where they are, either. All you can do
is show her some vulnerability, and that she is not just
someone you're out to score with. Maybe even a little
time.
Oh, yes, this is something every "pickup artist" on
the planet fears, but is ultimately more honest and
compelling than the "command & conquer" method of
trying to control a woman.
#2: Vulnerable does NOT equal WUSS.
It simply means being secure enough to demonstrate
rapport by revealing common emotions to her.
Of course you also want to...
3) Switch gears back to having FUN as fast as you
can.
The one thing I discovered that had the most impact
on making women interested in getting physical is when you can
get them to have FUN with you.
A woman's emotional experience and sexual attraction
with you is directly related to how much fun she
feels when she's with you.
The more you get active and get her out of your head, the
less you are into being "serious" and pushing to move forward in
a relationship, the more you'll found that she wanted
attention and time from you.
And, the reverse was true. The more you felt like she
was slipping away and the harder you worked to "fix"
things, the more you actually sabotaged the good vibe you'll both
have together.
When she's having fun, she has nothing else to worry
about.
When she's having fun, she's not in her head.
When she's having fun, she's connecting on a very
intense level with you.
And just one more thing here...
#3: Laughing does not always equal FUN.
Fun is a more complete experience than just making
her laugh. She has to be IN the experience with you,
and having you there as part of the situation as it
unfolds.
These are shared experiences, which also create more
rapport and trust later on.
If you implement these three steps in your game with
women, even before she decides to pull on the
emergency brake with you, you'll find you have a much
more intense and devastating effect on her.
And you'll also understand on a deeper level what it
is that women are genuinely attracted to in a man.
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Remember that your level of confidence isn't something
"hard coded" or given to you by genetics.
You don't "inherit" your level of self-esteem.
You build it all by YOURSELF. It's in your head, and
it's something that you can completely control by
taking control of your thoughts.
Period.
The Alpha Man knows that self-development is the path to
a better life. It all starts with getting educated.
Learning how to create attrac.tion with women is not
'accidental'. If you'are always at tails end as to why
you're not seeing the results you want with women, like it or
not, women are COMPLEX individuals. FAR DIFFERENT, almost
total opposites of men think.
Good news is, there IS a way around it. Understanding
how they think and what they're always looking for in a man
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