Attracting Women - The 10 deadly humor mistakes

For you to be desireable socially and to the other sex, you must stand out.  One of them
is being humorous.

Women likes humorous men.  You can study/train how to be humorous/funny.

Jordan lists 10 mistakes when it comes to humor.  Learn from him

---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Jordan Gray <jordan@socialfluency.com>
Date: Wed, May 16, 2012 at 1:20 PM
Subject: The 10 deadly humor mistakes

Hey 

I wanted to take a moment and introduce

myself.

My name's Jordan and like you, I struggled

for years trying to date the women I

REALLY wanted.

It seemed like they were always just out

of reach.

I wasn't rich, and I wasn't the best

looking guy in the world...

So I knew I needed some sort of 'edge'

to get a woman's attention and make me

see her me as the kind of guy she wanted

to be with.

Fortunately for me, it turns out being wealthy or

good-looking aren't nearly as important

as having the right sense of humor.

You see, humor gives you an almost magical

ability to attract and connect with

women you'd otherwise strike out with.

But just being funny isn't good enough.

In an effort to make a woman laugh, most

guys make several mistakes that

unwittingly KILL her feelings of

attraction for them.

Before we get into the most common
of of these mistakes, I want to remind you
to add me to your whitelist or your contacts
to make sure these messages don't go into your
spam folder.

That way you won't miss any of the
humor secrets I'll be sharing over the next
few weeks.

Done that?

Good.

Ok, here are the ten most common mistakes
guys make with humor:

1. Being "entertaining" rather than

exciting

We've all heard that women are attracted

to funny guys, but most guys think this

means they should do ANYTHING for a

laugh.

Unfortunately, when you do this, you

make sure she sees you as her

"entertainer" - kind of like the court

jester or the fool...

The right kind of humor 'pushes a

woman's buttons' and excites her.

Have you ever heard a woman say she

wants to be "swept off her feet"?

That means she wants to be a little

off-balance... overwhelmed with emotion...

and a little out of control.

If you can use humor to make her feel

this way, You're on the right track.

2. Being Predictable

When most guys think they're being

original, they're doing the same things

every other guy thinks is original. If

you want to get a girl's attention, you

have to stand out by being different.

Surprise is the essence of humor. That's

why jokes are less funny the more you

hear them. Guys will either use the same

tired jokes everyone else uses... OR

they'll find one joke formula that works

and repeat it too often.

As soon as a girl figures out the

formula, it stops being funny and you

lose your edge.

You need to have a variety of humor

techniques to choose from. By mixing and

matching, you can create always keep a

You don't even need to have THAT many.

Just a dozen techniques

It's like the difference between knowing

one chord on the guitar and knowing 12.

With one chord, you're pretty boring to

listen to. But if you know 12, you can

play most popular songs

3. Playing it safe

Something happens when we're around a

girl we think is "out of our league". We

feel nervous. We feel intimidated. And

something inside us says "play it safe",

"Don't offend her".

So we play it safe by either not making

any jokes at all, or only making "safe"

jokes.

But "safe" humor signals meekness - like

you don't want to risk offending her.

But by pushing the limits of what's

appropriate you demonstrate to a woman

that you're not as concerned with what

she thinks of you.

4. Being overly offensive

On the other hand, being crass and

offensive will alienate a lot of women

and just make them uncomfortable.

You need to know the difference between

being 'edgy' and being rude.

One, way is to slowly escalate the risk

level of the jokes you make when you

first meet a girl.

That'll give you a sense of where the

line is without stepping over it.

5. Coming across "try-hard"

If it looks like you're making a lot of

effort to come up with funny things to

say, it not only takes away from how

funny it is, but it makes you much less

attractive to women.

A sense of humor is only attractive when

it appears effortless.

This is all about delivery. Learn which

signals your body is giving off that

make it look like you're too 'invested'

in making people laugh and eliminate

them.

6. Coming across "pre-planned"

Having a few stock things to say in

common situations is great, but if a

woman senses you're just rehashing stock

material you use all the time, it'll

turn her off.

Besides, you can't memorize something

funny to say for every situation. Even

if you're funny at first, sooner or

later she'll catch on that your sense of

humor isn't "real" and is just a

collection of lines you learned

somewhere.

But if you understand how to OBSERVE the

humor in what's going on around you,

your jokes will always come across

relevant to what's happening and will

therefore seem spontaneous.

7. Winging it...

Though you don't want to just spout of

pre-memorized lines, that doesn't mean

you don't want to be prepared.

Have you ever seen a good Improv Comedy

show? The actors are responding 'in the

moment' to what's going on around them...

And they're able to do this because they

have a series of tools at their

disposal.

Although 'improv comedy' is usually the

'unattractive type of humor', the

principle still holds true: If you want

to be consistently funny you need to

know how to react to what's going on

around you in a funny way.

8. Not using humor at all

Most guys are so afraid to put

themselves out there that they become

overly serious around a girl they like.

This is the ultimate form of "playing it

safe".

You'd be surprised at how many guys

avoid trying to be funny altogether

because they're afraid of not getting a

laugh.

Using humor is the BEST ADVANTAGE you

can have for getting the girl you want.

And if you're not using it, you could

lose the girl you like to a guy who is.

9. Making too many jokes

Have you ever known someone who just

couldn't stop joking?

It's like their mind was constantly

searching for the next witty comment.

That used to be me.

And while I was able to get some laughs,

I was unwittingly signalling an

immaturity - like I wasn't able to take

myself seriously.

And when you can't take yourself

seriously, no one else will either.

I was hiding behind my sense of humor

and it cost me many opportunities with

women.

If you're serious all the time, you'll

be missing out on the most powerful

weapon of attraction there is.

But if you joke around too much you'll

look like a clown and will be issued a

one-way ticket to the friend zone.

You need to know when to joke and when

to be serious.

10. Not being open to getting help

We work hard at school to get a good

job. We practice sports or musical

instruments to continually improve. We

go to the gym to improve our health and

the way we look and feel.

But for some reason, there's almost a

taboo against getting help when it comes

to the area of our lives that has the

MOST impact on our happiness - our

ability to attract the opposite sex.

Attracting women is a set of skills.

Being funny is one of those skills.

And being funny in a way that turns

women on, is a skill that very few men

possess.

I used to think that getting the girls I

wanted 'should' come naturally - that it

shouldn't be something I'd have to work

on.

Without getting into why thinking in

terms of "should" and "shouldn't" is

like a disease of the mind, I'll just

say that once I let this 'should' go, I

opened myself to a whole world of

possibilities with women.

If you want a step-by-step system that:

- gives you a formula you can rely on to create humor in any situation 

- makes sure your humor signals all the right things about you 

- always comes across spontaneous and effortless
- 'pushes her buttons' without being offensive
- has a variety of techniques you can mix and match so you never become predictable

Then make sure you revisit the FR.ee presentation
we put together for you:

http://highstatushumor.com

Watch it now if you have the time.

Just don't wait too long or it might be

too late.

....Because I don't want to limit the

'competitive advantage' it can give the

guys who are ready for it, I'll be

taking the video down once enough guys

in your region have seen it.

Until then, keep an eye on your inbox.

I'll be sending you more tips and

techniques to help you use your sense of

humor to attract the kind of women you

really want.

Til then,

Jordan

http://highstatushumor.com/

Social Fluency, 950, 1040 west Georgia St, Vancouver, BC V6E 4H1, CANADA

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