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Date: Wed, Jul 18, 2012 at 11:35 AM
Subject: By Far The Most Important Email You Will Read This Week
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They'll tell you all about their fancy new weight loss supplement that
uses specific doses of clinically proven ingredients. And they'll even
go so far as to tell you they use the proper dosage of those ingredients
for "max fat burning."
Here's what they WON'T tell you...
Any REAL scientist knows that just putting a bunch of "clinically proven"
ingredients into a bottle doesn't necessarily mean the FINISHED PRODUCT
they created actually works.
Why?
Because all of these great ingredients don't always "play nice" together
when they're in the same capsule!
And yes, that means that not only will the weight loss product these "companies"
make possibly not work, but they may also be UNSAFE as well!
How would they know? They never did any clinical research on it. It's entirely
possible the product they are selling you, with all those "clinically proven"
ingredients in "just the right dose", is a ticking time bomb!
It's literally Supplement Scamming 101 and YOU are the one getting scammed.
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Did you know that most weight loss supplements sold on the market today
use a REALLY sneaky marketing trick?
You see, these marketers like to fatten THEIR wallet at YOUR expense.
Here's how they do it:
They'll tell you all about their fancy new weight loss supplement that
uses specific doses of clinically proven ingredients. And they'll even
go so far as to tell you they use the proper dosage of those ingredients
for "max fat burning."
Here's what they WON'T tell you...
Any REAL scientist knows that just putting a bunch of "clinically proven"
ingredients into a bottle doesn't necessarily mean the FINISHED PRODUCT
they created actually works.
Why?
Because all of these great ingredients don't always "play nice" together
when they're in the same capsule!
And yes, that means that not only will the weight loss product these "companies"
make possibly not work, but they may also be UNSAFE as well!
How would they know? They never did any clinical research on it. It's entirely
possible the product they are selling you, with all those "clinically proven"
ingredients in "just the right dose", is a ticking time bomb!
It's literally Supplement Scamming 101 and YOU are the one getting scammed.
Most companies take that low road. Here at Prograde we've staked out the
MORAL HIGHGROUND by doing a huge placebo-controlled double-blind clinical
study on our Prograde Metabolism fat burning product.
And the results of the study on our Prograde Metabolism Fat Burner?
(as compared to the placebo group)
- 4.2 times greater weight loss,
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- 4.3 times greater gain in lean mass,
- 7 times greater decrease in hip girth,
- 8 times greater decrease in waist girth,
- 5 times greater increase in subjective feelings of energy, and
- 4.3 times greater increase in lean mass-to-fat mass.
PLUS, an outstanding safety profile!
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Needless to say, when it comes to take a weight loss supplement,
we feel the only smart and SAFE choice is Prograde Metabolism.
And since our records show you've yet to try it, well, we'd
like to offer you the opportunity right now to try it for FREE!
Try Prograde Metabolism for FREE >>
Oh, and please do us a HUGE favor - please share this
email with everyone you know. We really want to be sure
people understand that the "clinically proven ingredients"
marketing approach to weight loss is just wrong.
It's such a shame these marketing companies - posing as
supplement companies and "experts" - are treating you
this way.
Who's lookin' out for ya? ;-)
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Prograde Nutrition
PS - Oh, and why don't those "companies" want to do
research on their products? Simple: They want to keep
all that money for themselves. It's a lot cheaper to just
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Fwd Playing Hard: Hard To Get (And he'll keep you forever)
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From: Michael Fiore <feedback@texttheromanceback.com>
Date: Thu, Jul 19, 2012 at 5:59 AM
Subject: Hard To Get (And he'll keep you forever)
Text The Romance Back., 1463 E. Republican St., #28A, Seattle, WA 98112, USA
From: Michael Fiore <feedback@texttheromanceback.com>
Date: Thu, Jul 19, 2012 at 5:59 AM
Subject: Hard To Get (And he'll keep you forever)
It is subtle, but it makes a world of
difference.
Some call it being "self-possessed."
My friend Mimi Tanner describes this
as being confident, with a touch of "holding back."
Mimi says:
Try adding a dose of "holding back" to
your love life - along with confidence,
of course.
"Holding back" just a little can make an
instant difference in your relationships -
in love and with anyone in your life.
The results of holding back can greatly
INCREASE your confidence.
Holding back does NOT mean forcing
yourself to be patient.
Holding back is NOT keeping quiet when
you're just dying to say something right
then, but you know that saying it would
be a turn-off for him.
Holding back is NOT putting your energy
into whatever may be going through HIS mind.
difference.
Some call it being "self-possessed."
My friend Mimi Tanner describes this
as being confident, with a touch of "holding back."
Mimi says:
Try adding a dose of "holding back" to
your love life - along with confidence,
of course.
"Holding back" just a little can make an
instant difference in your relationships -
in love and with anyone in your life.
The results of holding back can greatly
INCREASE your confidence.
Holding back does NOT mean forcing
yourself to be patient.
Holding back is NOT keeping quiet when
you're just dying to say something right
then, but you know that saying it would
be a turn-off for him.
Holding back is NOT putting your energy
into whatever may be going through HIS mind.
Check out "Hard To Get" By Mimi Tanner ====>>> http://ttrb.me/hardtoget
Being self-possessed means remembering
that you are YOU, and NOT focusing
only on whatever he thinks about you.
Being self-possessed means BEING YOU.
It takes two to have a relationship. How
often are you ABSENT when you are with
him, because you're focusing on other
things, such as:
- thinking about the future
- being concerned about your appearance
- figuring out how interested he is
- thinking about the past
If you're thinking about these things
when you're with him, then you are
forgetting to appreciate what you bring
to the table.
If you're worrying too much about what
he thinks, then you are already heading
toward being a doormat in your thinking.
You're not desperate for his approval,
so relax and be in the moment. Don't
think about how you look any more than
is necessary. Don't worry about how
you are coming across to him.
Don't try to read his reactions to you
more than you are being WITH him when
you're WITH him.
That is the beginning of how to hold
back and make a big difference in your
relationships.
It helps to work along with nature - instead of
trying to fight against it!
What have you got to lose by working WITH nature -
instead of fighting it!
"Hard to Get" is all about human nature, says my
friend Mimi Tanner, in her program:
"Hard To Get: The Timeless Art of Conquering His Heart"
Being self-possessed means remembering
that you are YOU, and NOT focusing
only on whatever he thinks about you.
Being self-possessed means BEING YOU.
It takes two to have a relationship. How
often are you ABSENT when you are with
him, because you're focusing on other
things, such as:
- thinking about the future
- being concerned about your appearance
- figuring out how interested he is
- thinking about the past
If you're thinking about these things
when you're with him, then you are
forgetting to appreciate what you bring
to the table.
If you're worrying too much about what
he thinks, then you are already heading
toward being a doormat in your thinking.
You're not desperate for his approval,
so relax and be in the moment. Don't
think about how you look any more than
is necessary. Don't worry about how
you are coming across to him.
Don't try to read his reactions to you
more than you are being WITH him when
you're WITH him.
That is the beginning of how to hold
back and make a big difference in your
relationships.
It helps to work along with nature - instead of
trying to fight against it!
What have you got to lose by working WITH nature -
instead of fighting it!
"Hard to Get" is all about human nature, says my
friend Mimi Tanner, in her program:
"Hard To Get: The Timeless Art of Conquering His Heart"
Best,
Mike
Text The Romance Back., 1463 E. Republican St., #28A, Seattle, WA 98112, USA
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Fwd: How to fix a horrible breakup
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From: Mirabelle Summers <news@meetyoursweet.com>
Date: Wed, Jul 18, 2012 at 10:33 PM
Subject: How to fix a horrible breakup
From: Mirabelle Summers <news@meetyoursweet.com>
Date: Wed, Jul 18, 2012 at 10:33 PM
Subject: How to fix a horrible breakup
Hi, Jorge!
Firstly, before getting into today's email, if
you haven't checked out this video yet on how to
win your ex back using little text messages, I
highly recommend that you watch it right now:
==> Video - How to 'Text' Your Ex Back
Ok, now on to today's newsletter...
When a relationship ends, it feels as though
the world's been turned upside down. Suddenly,
everything that is familiar and precious has
vanished. All that's left is the cold, insensitive
world.
It's scary, it's horrible ... and it's your new
reality.
With a head full of confusion and a heart full
of pain, the one question on your mind is: "How
can I fix this situation RIGHT NOW?"
During the initial shock and confusion of a
break-up, it's common for the one left behind to
shelve logic and common sense, and focus instead
on the emotional side of things. Like pain. Anger.
Hurt. Grief. Betrayal. Shock.
And with this whirling inferno of negative
emotions comes another strong reaction: denial.
You want to know how to get your ex back and
stop the pain of this break up. Preferably, as
soon as possible. It hurts way, way too much to
allow this situation to continue for one SECOND
longer than it absolutely has to.
There's no time to consider whether or not the
end of the relationship might actually be a good
thing in the long run. You're in far too much pain
to think about what it was that made your partner
so unhappy that they chose to end the relationship
rather than try to fix things.
Grief is the most painful of all emotions. And
when you're in its grip, all that matters is
stopping the pain. NOW.
As far as you can see, the easiest way to stop
the pain of a break-up is to fix the relationship
- to get your lover back, and get rid of this
awful, agonizing, ever-present sorrow.
Unfortunately, fixing a broken relationship is
not all that straight forward.
As Greg Behrendt and Amira Ruotola-Behrendt,
authors of "It's Called A Breakup Because
It's Broken" say, relationships end for a reason.
Even if YOU feel like the relationship was the
most perfect relationship in the history of the
world, IT CLEARLY WASN'T.
Why not?
Because, for one person in that relationship-
that's 50% of the partnership - things were bad
enough for them to end it.
Not try to fix it. Not "take a break". But
actually consider what you have to offer them,
decide against it, and cut their losses now.
If you're keen to learn more about the psychology
of MEN and why they lose interest and how you can
get him interested in you again using simple little
text messages, then go watch this video here right
away:
==> Video - How to 'Text' Your Ex Back
Now... let's take a closer look at how to cope with
the confusion, anxiety and grief that ensues when
a relationship ends...
To illustrate, I've included a question from one
of our readers - a question that, with slight
variations, has to be one of THE MOST COMMON
questions of all when dealing with a relationship
break-up.
This one's from Natalie, and she writes:
"I think I screwed up ... and I need some help. A
great relationship that I have just been in for
the past three years has recently ended. He was
the one who ended it not me.
We have been apart for a month now and we still
stay in touch ... he says he wants us to be friends.
A couple of times we've slept together since the breakup
and he says that although he still really cares about me,
that it was just sex and he doesn't want us to get back
together.
Here is my question - Is there a chance we can
get back together? Surely because he wants to be
friends and we are still sleeping together, that
means there is a chance and that I am still in his
heart as he is in mine? Do you think that he still
thinks about me as a potential girlfriend?
Our relationship was so great, all I want is to get
him back again, and I think that because he is
still thinking about me that this must be
possible.
Please tell me what to do to get our relationship
back on track. And thank you very much for all your other
help in books newsletters etc, it is very helpful to me.
Yours, Natalie"
My response:
Woah, Natalie!
Slow down here a moment. What you need to do is
take a deep breath and calm down.
Just from the few lines that you've written in to me,
I can tell you several things that are very clear to an
objective observer:
1. He does NOT still love you, and he does NOT
think of you as a potential girlfriend. He doesn't
even think of you as a friend, let alone potential
girlfriend material.
2. He does still think about you, but this
doesn't necessarily mean anything. It just means
that you're entering his headspace now and again.
3. You are too sad from the ending of the
relationship to make good decisions for yourself
right now. You need to ask someone close to you
for some advice and ongoing support as you
extricate yourself from this emotional mess.
Allow me to clarify each of these points.
Point 1: How can I tell that he does not still
love you? Well, firstly because he says so.
Secondly, because of the way he's treating you. He
might be saying that he would like the two of you
to be friends - but pay attention to his ACTIONS,
not his WORDS.
Is he behaving how a true friend would? No. He
is not. He's causing you pain and confusion, and
is allowing you to hope that the two of you will
mend your broken relationship. That's not
friendship, that's plain selfishness.
Even putting aside the fact that the two of you
are still sleeping together every now and then,
there is NO WAY that the relationship you have
right now could be termed a "friendship" by
ANYONE'S measures.
A friendship is all about trust, respect, and
mutual PLATONIC enjoyment of one another's
company. Friends are understanding, generous, and
kind to one another.
A friendship does not inflict pain on either of
the people involved in it.
By these measures alone, the truth is that
NEITHER of you are prepared to be friends.
As for your ex, I'm sorry to say that he is
using you at the moment. He's using you as a
"safety measure" - he knows that he made the right
decision for himself by choosing to end the
relationship, but he enjoys the safety-net of
having you there in the background.
Having you around means that he doesn't ever
have to fear being truly alone. After all, if
things don't work out for him as a single man, or
with any other girlfriends he might be keeping on
the side, he knows that he could always try going
back to you again for some quick sex, affection,
or an ego-boost.
And as for you yourself: you are clearly not
ready for a friendship with your ex, either.
You're using the opportunity that this
"friendship" presents to keep your ex in your life
at any cost. You're not wanting to be true
friends. You are merely using the term
"friendship" to hide behind as you try to figure
out a way to get the two of you back together
again.
This will only cause you pain in the long run,
because it's allowing you to fool yourself that
the relationship is not really "over" - when, in
fact, it IS.
It's confusing when you have to differentiate
someone's INTENTIONS from their ACTIONS.
For example, when your ex tells you that he
still cares about you and wants to be your friend,
but then complicates matters by sleeping with you
and explaining that he doesn't love you any more,
it is very hard on you.
It's difficult for someone who is so
emotionally involved in the situation to see
things clearly, which is why I'm so glad you've
written in and asked for an objective opinion.
Point 2: Yes, he still thinks about you.
Unfortunately, this doesn't mean that he wants to
get back together with you - or even that he
particularly cares for your welfare or happiness.
Everyone thinks about exes from time to time.
Depending on the circumstances of the breakup,
they might think of an ex with fondness,
bitterness, sadness, or even rage - but none of
these things mean that the two of you will get
back together.
In your case, he's thinking of you for the
simple fact that you were a major part of his life
for a long time. It would be very difficult for
him to NOT think of you every now and then. It
doesn't mean he still loves you, and it doesn't
mean that he wants to get back together with you.
Point 3: You're not in a good place emotionally
right now. It's difficult for you to disengage
your emotions enough to understand what you need
to do to preserve your own best interests here.
If you were seeing things clearly, you'd see
what doubtless all your friends and family members
can see: that your ex has NO intention of getting
back together with you.
That he's simply using you as the "soft option"
until someone better comes along.
That staying in touch with him is actually
HARMING YOU, and is prolonging the grieving
process.
Fact: you need to make a clean break with your
old relationship. This means no contact of any
sort with your ex (and yes, text messages, email,
and voicemail all count as contact.)
I know that this will be painful for you. The
end of a cherished relationship is always a bloody
thing, even when that ending is for the best. You
will have to be strong.
Here's a fact that will help: by making a clean
break, you're actually choosing the option that's
the LEAST painful in the long run.
Yes, it will hurt more RIGHT NOW than if you
were to continue to see him, and to sporadically
do things that give you false hope (like sleeping
with him).
But eking out that contact, is actually making
the break-up itself a lot more drawn-out and
painful than it needs to be. It's putting off the
day when you'll be able to say to yourself, "I'm
over him". It's sacrificing your long-term
happiness, simply in order to delay the evil day
of acceptance a little bit longer.
It's like ripping off a Band-Aid: a quick rip,
an "ouch", and then .... nothing but healthy,
healed, smooth flesh underneath.
You need to write your ex an email or a letter
and explain to him that you've made a decision to
cease all contact from here on. Explain that
you've made this decision because you're looking
out for your own best interests, and that it's
simply too difficult to come to terms with the end
of the relationship when you're still hanging out
- even if it's only "as friends".
Ask that he respects your wishes, and - as a
nice touch - wish him all the best for his future.
Then sign off, send it, and congratulate
yourself. You've just taken the first step towards
assuming emotional responsibility for yourself and
your own life - and you've made yourself available
for when REAL happiness comes knocking!
And rest assured, it will. Despite the pain,
despite the anguish and agony you're enduring
right now, there will come a moment when you
realize you've come through the worst.
Light, love, and hope will re-enter your life.
You will come through this experience stronger
and better than you were before. You'll have learned
valuable life lessons, and you'll be truly ready to
welcome someone who deserves you, and all you have to
offer, into your life.
Breakups are painful. It's all too easy to
blame yourself, to assume culpability where you
shouldn't, and to believe yourself to be at fault
- when actually, you were not.
Now bearing all that in mind, I've seen thousands
of people repair their broken relationships from
seemingly IMPOSSIBLE situations, and often it comes
about because of a 'new you' or at least because he
perceives that the 'best version of you' is back and
here to stay.
A way to communicate that 'new you' in a fun,
harmless, playful way, without it seeming like you are
trying to win him back, is through simple text messages.
NOT the type of text messages that make you seem
needy or clingy. There is a specific strategy that has
been PROVEN to work for thousands of women.
If you are interested in that strategy then go
watch this video right now by relationship expert, Michael
Fiore. In this video Michael reveals EXACTLY how to
use simple little text messages (and a bit of male
psychology) to make him want you back (and he'll think
it's HIS idea!)
Go watch it right here before it gets removed from
the internet:
==> Video - How to 'Text' Your Ex Back
Enjoy!
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your friend,
Mirabelle Summers
Relationships Advisor and Author
MeetYourSweet.com is founded and run by a few like-minded
relationships experts and authors including Mirabelle Summers,
Slade Shaw, Amy Waterman and others. We exist to help make
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Firstly, before getting into today's email, if
you haven't checked out this video yet on how to
win your ex back using little text messages, I
highly recommend that you watch it right now:
==> Video - How to 'Text' Your Ex Back
Ok, now on to today's newsletter...
When a relationship ends, it feels as though
the world's been turned upside down. Suddenly,
everything that is familiar and precious has
vanished. All that's left is the cold, insensitive
world.
It's scary, it's horrible ... and it's your new
reality.
With a head full of confusion and a heart full
of pain, the one question on your mind is: "How
can I fix this situation RIGHT NOW?"
During the initial shock and confusion of a
break-up, it's common for the one left behind to
shelve logic and common sense, and focus instead
on the emotional side of things. Like pain. Anger.
Hurt. Grief. Betrayal. Shock.
And with this whirling inferno of negative
emotions comes another strong reaction: denial.
You want to know how to get your ex back and
stop the pain of this break up. Preferably, as
soon as possible. It hurts way, way too much to
allow this situation to continue for one SECOND
longer than it absolutely has to.
There's no time to consider whether or not the
end of the relationship might actually be a good
thing in the long run. You're in far too much pain
to think about what it was that made your partner
so unhappy that they chose to end the relationship
rather than try to fix things.
Grief is the most painful of all emotions. And
when you're in its grip, all that matters is
stopping the pain. NOW.
As far as you can see, the easiest way to stop
the pain of a break-up is to fix the relationship
- to get your lover back, and get rid of this
awful, agonizing, ever-present sorrow.
Unfortunately, fixing a broken relationship is
not all that straight forward.
As Greg Behrendt and Amira Ruotola-Behrendt,
authors of "It's Called A Breakup Because
It's Broken" say, relationships end for a reason.
Even if YOU feel like the relationship was the
most perfect relationship in the history of the
world, IT CLEARLY WASN'T.
Why not?
Because, for one person in that relationship-
that's 50% of the partnership - things were bad
enough for them to end it.
Not try to fix it. Not "take a break". But
actually consider what you have to offer them,
decide against it, and cut their losses now.
If you're keen to learn more about the psychology
of MEN and why they lose interest and how you can
get him interested in you again using simple little
text messages, then go watch this video here right
away:
==> Video - How to 'Text' Your Ex Back
Now... let's take a closer look at how to cope with
the confusion, anxiety and grief that ensues when
a relationship ends...
To illustrate, I've included a question from one
of our readers - a question that, with slight
variations, has to be one of THE MOST COMMON
questions of all when dealing with a relationship
break-up.
This one's from Natalie, and she writes:
"I think I screwed up ... and I need some help. A
great relationship that I have just been in for
the past three years has recently ended. He was
the one who ended it not me.
We have been apart for a month now and we still
stay in touch ... he says he wants us to be friends.
A couple of times we've slept together since the breakup
and he says that although he still really cares about me,
that it was just sex and he doesn't want us to get back
together.
Here is my question - Is there a chance we can
get back together? Surely because he wants to be
friends and we are still sleeping together, that
means there is a chance and that I am still in his
heart as he is in mine? Do you think that he still
thinks about me as a potential girlfriend?
Our relationship was so great, all I want is to get
him back again, and I think that because he is
still thinking about me that this must be
possible.
Please tell me what to do to get our relationship
back on track. And thank you very much for all your other
help in books newsletters etc, it is very helpful to me.
Yours, Natalie"
My response:
Woah, Natalie!
Slow down here a moment. What you need to do is
take a deep breath and calm down.
Just from the few lines that you've written in to me,
I can tell you several things that are very clear to an
objective observer:
1. He does NOT still love you, and he does NOT
think of you as a potential girlfriend. He doesn't
even think of you as a friend, let alone potential
girlfriend material.
2. He does still think about you, but this
doesn't necessarily mean anything. It just means
that you're entering his headspace now and again.
3. You are too sad from the ending of the
relationship to make good decisions for yourself
right now. You need to ask someone close to you
for some advice and ongoing support as you
extricate yourself from this emotional mess.
Allow me to clarify each of these points.
Point 1: How can I tell that he does not still
love you? Well, firstly because he says so.
Secondly, because of the way he's treating you. He
might be saying that he would like the two of you
to be friends - but pay attention to his ACTIONS,
not his WORDS.
Is he behaving how a true friend would? No. He
is not. He's causing you pain and confusion, and
is allowing you to hope that the two of you will
mend your broken relationship. That's not
friendship, that's plain selfishness.
Even putting aside the fact that the two of you
are still sleeping together every now and then,
there is NO WAY that the relationship you have
right now could be termed a "friendship" by
ANYONE'S measures.
A friendship is all about trust, respect, and
mutual PLATONIC enjoyment of one another's
company. Friends are understanding, generous, and
kind to one another.
A friendship does not inflict pain on either of
the people involved in it.
By these measures alone, the truth is that
NEITHER of you are prepared to be friends.
As for your ex, I'm sorry to say that he is
using you at the moment. He's using you as a
"safety measure" - he knows that he made the right
decision for himself by choosing to end the
relationship, but he enjoys the safety-net of
having you there in the background.
Having you around means that he doesn't ever
have to fear being truly alone. After all, if
things don't work out for him as a single man, or
with any other girlfriends he might be keeping on
the side, he knows that he could always try going
back to you again for some quick sex, affection,
or an ego-boost.
And as for you yourself: you are clearly not
ready for a friendship with your ex, either.
You're using the opportunity that this
"friendship" presents to keep your ex in your life
at any cost. You're not wanting to be true
friends. You are merely using the term
"friendship" to hide behind as you try to figure
out a way to get the two of you back together
again.
This will only cause you pain in the long run,
because it's allowing you to fool yourself that
the relationship is not really "over" - when, in
fact, it IS.
It's confusing when you have to differentiate
someone's INTENTIONS from their ACTIONS.
For example, when your ex tells you that he
still cares about you and wants to be your friend,
but then complicates matters by sleeping with you
and explaining that he doesn't love you any more,
it is very hard on you.
It's difficult for someone who is so
emotionally involved in the situation to see
things clearly, which is why I'm so glad you've
written in and asked for an objective opinion.
Point 2: Yes, he still thinks about you.
Unfortunately, this doesn't mean that he wants to
get back together with you - or even that he
particularly cares for your welfare or happiness.
Everyone thinks about exes from time to time.
Depending on the circumstances of the breakup,
they might think of an ex with fondness,
bitterness, sadness, or even rage - but none of
these things mean that the two of you will get
back together.
In your case, he's thinking of you for the
simple fact that you were a major part of his life
for a long time. It would be very difficult for
him to NOT think of you every now and then. It
doesn't mean he still loves you, and it doesn't
mean that he wants to get back together with you.
Point 3: You're not in a good place emotionally
right now. It's difficult for you to disengage
your emotions enough to understand what you need
to do to preserve your own best interests here.
If you were seeing things clearly, you'd see
what doubtless all your friends and family members
can see: that your ex has NO intention of getting
back together with you.
That he's simply using you as the "soft option"
until someone better comes along.
That staying in touch with him is actually
HARMING YOU, and is prolonging the grieving
process.
Fact: you need to make a clean break with your
old relationship. This means no contact of any
sort with your ex (and yes, text messages, email,
and voicemail all count as contact.)
I know that this will be painful for you. The
end of a cherished relationship is always a bloody
thing, even when that ending is for the best. You
will have to be strong.
Here's a fact that will help: by making a clean
break, you're actually choosing the option that's
the LEAST painful in the long run.
Yes, it will hurt more RIGHT NOW than if you
were to continue to see him, and to sporadically
do things that give you false hope (like sleeping
with him).
But eking out that contact, is actually making
the break-up itself a lot more drawn-out and
painful than it needs to be. It's putting off the
day when you'll be able to say to yourself, "I'm
over him". It's sacrificing your long-term
happiness, simply in order to delay the evil day
of acceptance a little bit longer.
It's like ripping off a Band-Aid: a quick rip,
an "ouch", and then .... nothing but healthy,
healed, smooth flesh underneath.
You need to write your ex an email or a letter
and explain to him that you've made a decision to
cease all contact from here on. Explain that
you've made this decision because you're looking
out for your own best interests, and that it's
simply too difficult to come to terms with the end
of the relationship when you're still hanging out
- even if it's only "as friends".
Ask that he respects your wishes, and - as a
nice touch - wish him all the best for his future.
Then sign off, send it, and congratulate
yourself. You've just taken the first step towards
assuming emotional responsibility for yourself and
your own life - and you've made yourself available
for when REAL happiness comes knocking!
And rest assured, it will. Despite the pain,
despite the anguish and agony you're enduring
right now, there will come a moment when you
realize you've come through the worst.
Light, love, and hope will re-enter your life.
You will come through this experience stronger
and better than you were before. You'll have learned
valuable life lessons, and you'll be truly ready to
welcome someone who deserves you, and all you have to
offer, into your life.
Breakups are painful. It's all too easy to
blame yourself, to assume culpability where you
shouldn't, and to believe yourself to be at fault
- when actually, you were not.
Now bearing all that in mind, I've seen thousands
of people repair their broken relationships from
seemingly IMPOSSIBLE situations, and often it comes
about because of a 'new you' or at least because he
perceives that the 'best version of you' is back and
here to stay.
A way to communicate that 'new you' in a fun,
harmless, playful way, without it seeming like you are
trying to win him back, is through simple text messages.
NOT the type of text messages that make you seem
needy or clingy. There is a specific strategy that has
been PROVEN to work for thousands of women.
If you are interested in that strategy then go
watch this video right now by relationship expert, Michael
Fiore. In this video Michael reveals EXACTLY how to
use simple little text messages (and a bit of male
psychology) to make him want you back (and he'll think
it's HIS idea!)
Go watch it right here before it gets removed from
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Enjoy!
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your friend,
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Fwd: Who is More Judgemental - Men or Women?
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From: Mirabelle Summers <news@meetyoursweet.com>
Date: Sat, Jul 14, 2012 at 10:28 PM
Subject: Who is More Judgemental - Men or Women?
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From: Mirabelle Summers <news@meetyoursweet.com>
Date: Sat, Jul 14, 2012 at 10:28 PM
Subject: Who is More Judgemental - Men or Women?
Hey Jorge, I've just posted an interesting
question to our new facebook wall - "Who is More
question to our new facebook wall - "Who is More
Judgemental - Men or Women?"
I'm keen to hear your responses, and also I'm going
to email a lot of men to get their thoughts on this
too.
Go here for our Facebook Page
Kind regards,
Mirabelle Summers
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too.
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Fwd: Love... Tips of The Week < What NEVER to Do > - July 10, 2012
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Date: Mon, Jul 9, 2012 at 10:05 PM
Subject: Love... Tips of The Week < What NEVER to Do > - July 10, 2012
Love...making Tips of the Week
July 10, 2012
Tasteful, juicy ideas for more spark between the sheets
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~~~ From the Editor ~~~
Next week find out which essential oil can greatly help arousal.
Enjoy!
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~~~ From the Editor ~~~
Are You Desperately Wanting HIM BACK?
The world's foremost expert on such matters is Michael Webb. He's
been on Oprah and 500 other shows.
Check out what he has to say:
http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=KYvWM&m=1otwMJcOfmwze1&b=ffEH4AwtxVMmz9wkfoF3Gg
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~~~ Tips of the Week ~~~
NEVER blow into a womans vagina. The air bubbles can get picked
up into the bloodstream and in some cases can be fatal.
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The male testosterone level tends to peak in October. A great month
to schedule a romantic getaway.
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Once a womans clitoris is fully aroused, it might be too
sensitive for direct stimulation. It varies in women. Ask.
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WANT A 2ND CHANCE WITH HER?
Do you have an *Ex* in your life that you would like
to get back? Or do you feel like your current wife
or girlfriend is slipping away from you?
Here are some tips and techniques that can have
her crave and desire you and only you.
If you dont do these things she might be in the arms
(and bed) of another man very soon.
http://www.TheRomantic.com/2nd-chance.htm
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
..........................................................
W H O I S M I C H A E L W E B B ?
Michael Webb is the worlds best known romance expert. He has
written over a dozen books on relationships and has appeared
on over 500 TV and radio shows. He is founder of the extremely
popular... www.TheRomantic.com -- and husband to Athena for over 20
years...
* occasionally I will mention a product other than mine I where I
might receive some compensation. But I always try to research the
product or company first and will only recommend it if I think it
is truly worthwhile.
..........................................................
From: Michael Webb <michael@theromantic.com>
Date: Mon, Jul 9, 2012 at 10:05 PM
Subject: Love... Tips of The Week < What NEVER to Do > - July 10, 2012
Love...making Tips of the Week
July 10, 2012
Tasteful, juicy ideas for more spark between the sheets
................................................................
You are receiving this newsletter because you requested it
at my website or another website.
If you want to be taken off or change your address,
please follow instructions at the bottom of the newsletter.
DO NOT press reply (nothing will happen).
................................................................
~~~ From the Editor ~~~
Next week find out which essential oil can greatly help arousal.
Enjoy!
................................................................
~~~ From the Editor ~~~
Are You Desperately Wanting HIM BACK?
The world's foremost expert on such matters is Michael Webb. He's
been on Oprah and 500 other shows.
Check out what he has to say:
http://clicks.aweber.com/y/ct/?l=KYvWM&m=1otwMJcOfmwze1&b=ffEH4AwtxVMmz9wkfoF3Gg
................................................................
~~~ Tips of the Week ~~~
NEVER blow into a womans vagina. The air bubbles can get picked
up into the bloodstream and in some cases can be fatal.
}{}{}{}{
The male testosterone level tends to peak in October. A great month
to schedule a romantic getaway.
}{}{}{}{
Once a womans clitoris is fully aroused, it might be too
sensitive for direct stimulation. It varies in women. Ask.
}{}{}{}{
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
WANT A 2ND CHANCE WITH HER?
Do you have an *Ex* in your life that you would like
to get back? Or do you feel like your current wife
or girlfriend is slipping away from you?
Here are some tips and techniques that can have
her crave and desire you and only you.
If you dont do these things she might be in the arms
(and bed) of another man very soon.
http://www.TheRomantic.com/2nd-chance.htm
* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
..........................................................
W H O I S M I C H A E L W E B B ?
Michael Webb is the worlds best known romance expert. He has
written over a dozen books on relationships and has appeared
on over 500 TV and radio shows. He is founder of the extremely
popular... www.TheRomantic.com -- and husband to Athena for over 20
years...
* occasionally I will mention a product other than mine I where I
might receive some compensation. But I always try to research the
product or company first and will only recommend it if I think it
is truly worthwhile.
..........................................................
Fwd: Day 3: The MOST IMPORTANT secret to making a man want you
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Date: Fri, Jul 6, 2012 at 6:27 AM
Subject: Day 3: The MOST IMPORTANT secret to making a man want yo
From: Mirabelle Summers <news@meetyoursweet.com>
Date: Fri, Jul 6, 2012 at 6:27 AM
Subject: Day 3: The MOST IMPORTANT secret to making a man want yo
Hi, Jorge!
Today's subject is 'The Secrets of
ATTRACTION'... what you have to know before you can
successfully and effortlessly attract a quality
man into your life.
NOTE: This has much less than you think to do
with your LOOKS than it does with who you REALLY
are.
Yes, your looks DO matter - but most women
mistakenly believe that looks are 'everything'. As
a result, they spend endless time building a
wardrobe, putting on makeup, and going to the gym...
and then they're confused when their
relationships never change up a gear.
Something else you may find relevant: there are
plenty of men out there who DO value 'looks' as
literally THE THING that would make them want to
commit to a woman. (Men have actually replied to
commitment-related survey questions that I've sent
out with this answer.)
So if you want to rely on looks alone, that's
OK... you will get men.
HOWEVER! The men that you DO get will tend to
be the ones who want a 'trophy girlfriend', and as
such, they will be more interested in 'sex' than
they are interested in 'you'. (And you can just
bet that they'll trade in an older, 'dingier'
model for something younger as soon as they feel
it appropriate to do so.)
Bottom line: once again, it all boils down to
QUALITY. If you want a quality man (and
relationship), you've got to BE QUALITY YOURSELF.
Which means, 'multi-faceted' is IN, and 'Barbie
doll' is OUT.
Moving right along...
So what will flat-out help you to attract the
man (and life) of your dreams right onto your
doorstep?
FIRST OF ALL... you've GOT to take a look at
your ATTITUDE.
Quantum physics (the 'science of possibility')
states that our attitudes and beliefs are what
shape our reality. What's happening INSIDE us is
what determines the situation OUTSIDE of us.
So if you're giving too much air-time to that
Inner Critic who lives inside your head... or if
you're holding yourself back with artificial,
limiting beliefs about men and love...
... i.e. 'I'm too old to be attractive', 'I'm
just not pretty enough', 'No-one wants to date a
single mom', and so on...
...then the Universe will 'hear' you, and -
since the Universe always speaks your language -
that is then the situation that you will create
around you.
BUT, if you can develop an 'attitude of
gratitude' and actually APPRECIATE what you've
got, then very quickly you'll begin to experience
a paradigm shift - not only inside your heart and
mind, but also in your LIFE.
(That's the great thing about quantum physics -
the responsibility is squarely in YOUR lap. Can
anyone say... EMPOWERING?)
Your attitude about YOURSELF will also manifest
in your life.
For example, if you're acting out insecurity or
low self-image... for example, by doing things
that, deep down, you're not comfortable doing in
order to 'get' somebody's attention or affection...
...for example, getting 'physical' quickly in
order to 'get closer' to someone, or agreeing to
an exclusive relationship EVEN WHEN you don't
really want to, because you're unsure of what
other options you might have...
...then you've got to be aware that those
actions are rooted in FEAR and INSECURITY and will
inevitably come back to bite you on the butt.
Here's the deal: if you have sex before you'd
prefer because you want to 'get something' (a
commitment, some attention, someone to wake up
next to), then you are directly raising your
chances of ending up with a man who is USING YOU
for sex.
Why?
Because the Universe LISTENS to you and
REFLECTS your behaviors right back to you.
In this case, you would actually be using
YOURSELF as a 'tool' to 'get' something out of
someone else. The result is usually that the
people that this manipulative behavior actually
works on are the very same people who are
comfortable doing what you do - i.e. USING YOU.
Part of being a quality woman, and ending up
with the kind of quality man that you REALLY want
and deserve, is developing a little
self-awareness, actually paying some attention to
what's motivating you and what your REAL
INTENTIONS are, and bringing them into line with
who you are.
No falseness, manipulation, or 'faking it' is
required (or permitted) here. BEING quality will
GET YOU quality - there's just no short-changing
yourself in this department.
Here are a few solid tips to help you make sure
that you're not inadvertently sliding into false,
'needy', or accidentally-manipulative behavior:
- Don't be on call for him.
- Don't drop all your plans for him.
- Don't sit at home waiting for his text
messages or phone-call.
- Don't ditch your friends for him.
- Don't be the one he calls ONLY when he wants
something.
- Don't accept a 'date' after 10 pm (because by
this stage, it's not a date, it's a booty-call.)
- Don't be fooled by the belief that he will
change for you.
- Don't get led on by that little string of
hope he keeps dangling in front of you.
If you want people in your life to respect you
and genuinely care for you, then you've got to set
the tone. Men (and everyone else) will only think
as well of you as YOU think of yourself, so stop
second-guessing yourself and become your own
biggest fan. To get respect, you've gotta have it
for yourself.
By the way... all these things are PART of
being genuinely attractive to a man, but they're
not THE MOST fundamental thing.
I want you to think deeper than what everyone
else is telling you. Think deeper than
"conventional wisdom."
What is the single most FUNDAMENTAL thing that
a man wants in a sexual partner?
Think about it.
What's the one thing he HAS to have?
I can tell you straight off that it isn't
personality. There are plenty of lovely, funny,
and smart SINGLE women out there.
I can also tell you that it isn't looks.
Beautiful women get dumped every day.
Confidence is closer, but I still know shy
timid girls who are deemed desirable.
So what is it?
Get ready for the answer, because it's gonna
blow your mind... THE MOST IMPORTANT SECRET TO
MAKING MEN WANT YOU IS...
...that she's a WOMAN.
That's IT.
Men are attracted to FEMALES, plain and simple.
A WOMAN is someone who's completely different
from him in every way.
A WOMAN is someone who has intuition, is in
touch with her emotions, and can nurture and
support others through life's ups and downs.
A WOMAN is someone that a man can trust to
teach him how to feel, how to love, and how to
live life in its most fullest capacity.
See, you don't have to be a man's "best friend"
to attract him.
(And in fact, forming a 'friendship' with a
man, in the hopes of getting 'more than' down the
track, is a plain bad idea and it rarely works. If
a guy is attracted to you, he'll let you know
about it. And if he's NOT attracted to you, then
no amount of chumming around and being 'friends'
is going to CREATE attraction.)
Men cultivate masculine relationships - a.k.a.
FRIENDSHIPS - to satisfy COMPLETELY DIFFERENT
needs than the ones that they cultivate FEMALE
relationships for.
A man will go to other men to talk tough,
one-up each other, fix stuff (or, depending on
what kind of guy he is, break stuff), tinker
around, and generally wallow in MALENESS.
(That's M-A-L-E-NESS, by the way... the kind of
'masculinity' he DOESN'T want you around to
witness.)
He'll go to a WOMAN when he wants to talk about
his hopes and dreams. He'll go to a WOMAN when he
wants to feel loved or nurtured. He will go to a
WOMAN when he wants to feel supported.
He'll go to a WOMAN when he wants the SOFT
TOUCH.
A man wants a woman because she's a WOMAN... not
because she's his "best friend."
Not because she's "one of the guys," able to
match him shot for shot, or head a soccer ball
better than he can... and not because she resembles
him in his interests, passions, and abilities.
Unfortunately, a lot of women mistake
'closeness' for ATTRACTION, and try to strike up a
relationship by EMULATING a man... in the hopes
that 'alike' will create DESIRE.
Here's how it usually goes for most women:
After attracting a man, they get to know him a
little better, and come to a set of conclusions
(based on a semi-knowledge of his personality) of
what sort of woman he would most like to hang out
with.
As a result, they start to make all these
little 'alterations' to their personality. She'll
suddenly start liking HIS music. She'll drink beer
instead of white wine. She'll carve her 20-minute
morning 'wash-and-get-pretty' routine down to 5
minutes because she's 'embarrassed' about taking
care of herself. And she'll start spending more
time hanging out in sports bars, because that's
where he likes to hang out.
Why?
Because she thinks (wrongly, as it turns out)
that he will like her more and WANT HER more if
she more closely resembles HIM, and the (male)
friends he likes to hang out with.
WRONG!!
And before you know it, her original
personality (which incidentally, is what attracted
him in the first place) is GONE. Replaced by a
bizarre replica of the new man in her life.
Has this ever happened to you?
Have you ever been in that situation where a
guy goes to you when he wants to get drunk and be
naughty... but NOT the girl he wants to talk to
about love or his dreams?
This sort of thing happens when a man doesn't
see you as a WOMAN.
In your efforts to become "one of the boys,"
and get closer to him by EMULATING him...
...as opposed to having your OWN self, your OWN
opinions, and your own LIFE...
...you actually BECOME 'one of the boys' to him.
That's exactly how he now sees you... as a
'mate', not as a contender to be The Woman in his
life.
Since the feminism boom, women have been taught
that we can do 'anything.'
We can match the boys in any old area we want
to... the subtext being, 'and they'll just have to
suck it up.'
Here's the problem... if you're trying to
'compete' with men, or prove that 'women are equal
to men', that's going to come across as not only
egomaniacal, but also OFF-PUTTINGLY COMPETITIVE.
You can compete with a man, OR you can attract
him. You can't do both.
Now, that's not to say that women are somehow
'less than' than men are, or that we need to take
pains to reign in our brilliance in case we 'put
off the men'.
But it IS to say that when you're basing your
beliefs and actions in a need to 'prove something'
(read: COMPETE), then you can bet that men will
SENSE that about you, and be turned off.
It's true.
And what many women just go TOO FAR in the
whole 'we're just as good as men' concept without
even realizing it. They end up portraying
themselves as 'ball-busters' or 'hard women', and
of course, they then find it extremely difficult
to ALSO be attractive.
Why?
Does that mean that 'success' is 'unattractive'
in a woman?
Well, no. Not unless the kind of guy you're
setting your cap for is ALSO the kind of guy who
has deep-seated 'security issues' about his
masculinity.
What it DOES mean is that if you're succeeding
at something NOT out of a genuine desire to
SUCCEED, but instead are operating out of a desire
to 'win' over MEN, then THAT is what's
unattractive... because it's UNFEMININE. It's
competitive, it's not sexy, and it's just not
attractive.
So if you want to compete with a guy, fine...
but don't expect to have him eating out of the
palm of your hand as soon as business hours are
over.
In the process of trying to make themselves
more 'liberated' and gain all of the freedoms that
men have, many women have, in the eyes of the
guys, essentially BECOME MEN.
They've embraced their masculine
'competitiveness' over their femininity, in the
belief that this is what's required to get what
you want in life.
They've managed to squash the very feminine
essence that makes them attractive to men!
QUICK NOTE: When you start comparing yourself
with the opposite sex, you are setting yourself up
for trouble!
And by the way...
There's no threshold that you cross over that
qualifies you as the 'feminine' kind of woman that
men are attracted to.
Discovering and unleashing your femininity is a
PROCESS. You're going to continue learning more
about what it means to be a woman until the day
you die.
But to speed things up a bit, I'm going to give
you three mind-blowing principles right now that
have the power to COMPLETELY TRANSFORM your life.
MIRABELLE'S CRASH COURSE IN ATTRACTION
TIP #1: Avoid getting too set in your ways.
If you want to be the kind of WOMAN that a MAN
desires, then it's time to shake things up a bit.
The main issue that most women have in this
area is, they get too set in what they're LOOKING
for. They know the exact kind of man they want,
and they're not even going to waste any time
DATING anyone who doesn't match the picture
they've got in their heads of Mr Right.
This is a great way to cheat yourself out of a
LOT of dates, and a LOT of great relationships.
Challenge yourself. Don't get too comfortable.
Loosen up your ideals a bit and try dating people
'just to see what happens', instead of dating to
'find someone'.
There are still things you are being called to
learn and grow from. If you believe you have
reached the pinnacle of your success, you have
nothing left to achieve.
The minute your life seems to be just the way
you like it, STIR THINGS UP. Do something that
scares you just a little bit.
Here's another common situation: the situation
where you spend all your time striving to get
things 'just so', and you're not going to be
'happy' UNTIL you get things 'just so'.
For example, 'I'm going to be happy when I've
got a great relationship.'
Or, 'I'll really be able to relax when I get
that pay rise.'
Try this on for size: the point of your life is
NOT to have things just the way you want them.
The minute everything gets just the way you
want it, something's going to happen and blow your
house of cards to bits.
It's important for your lifestyle, for your
hope of a great relationship, and for your own
irresistibility, that you keep your life in a
state of FLUX. Don't get too focused on one thing:
the only thing that tunnel vision's good for is
IGNORING everything else that's out there.
If you're afraid of change... or afraid of loss...
or afraid of losing a bit of control... then it's
time to face those fears and see them for what
they really are.
It's not a pretty word, and it's a difficult
one to get your head around...
...It's called INSECURITY.
Insecurity often manifests itself in an extreme
desire to CONTROL things.
The mindset of working to "get" things (and
thus, control) becomes entrenched. You work hard
to get money, which equals financial security. You
work out at the gym to "get" the body you desire,
so your self-esteem is cemented and so you feel
that you can attract a suitable man.
It's easy to get into the mindset of
"acquiring" things to improve your life.
And most of the time, there's nothing wrong
with that. Working hard to get what you want is a
handy mindset to have, when you're talking about a
career or a possession.
But a man is not an acquisition. A man is
something that will turn up in your life when
you're able to RELAX and just chill out - not when
you're hell-bent on controlling your environment,
and DEFINITELY not when you're busy excluding all
sorts of guys from your life because they 'don't
match up'.
TIP #2: Set clear boundaries with men.
Ever heard the phrase 'doormat'?
It's something that many MANY women turn
themselves into in a vain struggle to become 'more
attractive' to men.
Women who are 'doormats' are the ones who give
when they don't actually WANT to give.
They do things for others (guys) because they
want to be more desired, more appreciated, and to
create more of a bond. (Hint: this is actually
MANIPULATIVE, although most women don't realize it
at the time.)
Unfortunately, men can actually TELL when your
actions are rooted in insecurity or fear... in this
case, a fear that you won't be 'enough' UNLESS you
act a certain way or give a certain thing.
And, far from being attractive, it's actually a
MASSIVE turn-off... and usually results in poor
treatment, LESS of a bond than before, and
significantly decreased respect. (Feelings of
confusion and frustration on both sides are also
common.)
Fortunately, the antidote is simple: SET CLEAR
BOUNDARIES. Learn the art of being straight-up
with people (and men, in particular), and
recognize that trying to 'get people' to like you
by acting a certain way is MANIPULATIVE and
UNATTRACTIVE... and will directly contradict all
other efforts to be truly high-quality and
desirable.
A good skill to learn is the art of saying 'no'
WITHOUT feeling or creating any awkwardness.
For example, if your date calls you up at 7pm
for an 8.30 pm date, and you would feel
inconvenienced by dropping everything to meet him
(as you SHOULD feel, by the way)...
- A 'doormat' would FEEL the inconvenience and
the resentment, but go ahead and meet him anyway,
thus poisoning the evening for both people by
failing to act on her own feelings. Her date then
gets the message that she's the kind of woman
who's afraid of honesty and directness, and
figures that she'll end up being a liability
further down the track.
- A quality woman would say, 'Actually, I've
got an early start tomorrow, but I'm free later
this week. Why don't we meet up then at a more
convenient time?' ... and is thus able to stay true
to herself, be honest with her guy, AND enjoy a
date at a time that suits HER.
The message her date gets: 'My life and my priorities
are important to me, but you matter too, so let's
figure out something that suits BOTH of us.' ... and
his respect (and desire) for her GROWS.
Once you figure out how to set boundaries, and you
actually internalize the fact that the word 'No'
is going to INCREASE the quality of your life (and
your self-respect, your desirability, your energy
levels ...), you're going to start seeing a big
turn-around in the quality and quantity of your
dates, and things will start to happen very
quickly.
TIP #3: Come to terms with your past and
your future.
This is another aspect of your life where the
word 'RESPONSIBILITY' plays a HUGE role in your
day-to-day life, AND your attraction.
'Baggage' is something that just about
everybody has. However, SOME women allow the
weight of their baggage to actively shape the life
that they're living today, and this translates
into nothing but aggravation and DECREASED quality
in the here-and-now.
Your past is part of who you are and what you
have grown into, and while we are shaped by the
events of our past, we are by no means DEFINED by
them... that is, unless we choose to.
For example, many women feel 'emotionally
crippled' by previous relationships with men, and
have reached the point where they feel 'unable' or
unwilling to 'try again' with a new man.
The problem with this is that, once again, your
BELIEFS are creating a NEGATIVE REALITY for you.
You are effectively 'imprisoning yourself' in the
past by forbidding yourself the ability to move
on, to forgive what's happened, and to embrace the
possibilities of right now.
Let me tell you a little story...
>>>>
There were two Buddhist monks sitting quietly
together under a tree. After many years of
imprisonment and torture, they had finally been
released from their cells and were free to go.
One monk turned to another. 'Have you forgiven
your imprisoners?' he said.
The other monk looked appalled. 'Of course
not!' he said. 'How on earth could I ever forgive
them for all the things they did to me?'
The other monk regarded him calmly. 'Then I
suppose you're still imprisoned,' he said.
>>>>
The parable of the monks is similar to your
own, if you're still lugging around baggage from
the past. If you are permitting pain from the past
to shape the reality of your life as it is right
now, then you're in a prison of your own making.
You're CHOOSING to accept the fact that the past
will forever have a hold on you, and that you
would rather LIVE in the past than move on and
live in the NOW.
The key is FORGIVENESS (otherwise known as
'moving on'.)
To forgive means that you make a conscious
decision to STOP giving mental energy to
whatever has happened in the past. It's not about
absolving someone else of responsibility - for
example, if you feel that someone has wronged you,
know that this is not about saying, 'That's OK
that you did this to me.'
Instead, it's about freeing yourself from the
emotional burden of looking at life from a past
perspective, and admitting to yourself that you
are ready to move on WITHOUT bringing forward
baggage or burdens from 'before'.
Only when you are able to relinquish the past
and accept that it's over will you be able to live
fully in the present moment... and only then will
you be able to recognize and make the most of the
opportunities that present themselves to you each
day.
Until you can forgive (read: accept, and move
on), you will still be stuck in the prison of the
past.
Equally, while you're on the subject of the
past, it's not going to hurt to turn your mental
gaze the other direction: to the FUTURE.
If you have no clue where your life is heading,
then I suggest that you spend some time figuring
it out.
Some women have GREAT ideas for their lives...
but they change their minds every few months (or
weeks or days).
The result? They never accomplish anything.
They lack the initiative to set a plan of action
to help them achieve.
Think about it... if you're an arrow heading for
a target, then suddenly change direction to hit
another target, you're going to run out of steam
and drop to the ground before you manage to hit
ANYTHING.
Set a goal for yourself, and STICK to it. Start
sticking to your word. Don't lay awake at night
worrying if you made the right decision or whether
you'd like something better. ANY decision is
better than no decision at all!
If the magnitude of the goal frightens you,
then set smaller goals that move you along in
incremental steps until you know enough to
determine whether that direction is right for you.
By the way... smaller goals are a good idea
because you're more likely to achieve them. The
rush of achievement from fulfilling a goal is a
high like no other... and gradually, as your
confidence grows, you can start to set larger,
more challenging goals.
But take it one step at a time! Don't rush the
process!
For example, it may not be helpful to think to
yourself, 'My goal is to get engaged and married
within the next six months' if right now you are
single and not dating anyone.
But having a SMALLER goal - one that you know
that you can meet and fulfill, with some effort -
will act as a motivating force in your life, and
will empower you once you've completed it. For
example, 'meeting and dating three men in the next
eight weeks' is much more of a sustainable goal.
Once you come to terms with this fact, and are
able to externalize this truth in your day to day
life, your relationships are going to be a lot
happier and healthier!
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With love,
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Today's subject is 'The Secrets of
ATTRACTION'... what you have to know before you can
successfully and effortlessly attract a quality
man into your life.
NOTE: This has much less than you think to do
with your LOOKS than it does with who you REALLY
are.
Yes, your looks DO matter - but most women
mistakenly believe that looks are 'everything'. As
a result, they spend endless time building a
wardrobe, putting on makeup, and going to the gym...
and then they're confused when their
relationships never change up a gear.
Something else you may find relevant: there are
plenty of men out there who DO value 'looks' as
literally THE THING that would make them want to
commit to a woman. (Men have actually replied to
commitment-related survey questions that I've sent
out with this answer.)
So if you want to rely on looks alone, that's
OK... you will get men.
HOWEVER! The men that you DO get will tend to
be the ones who want a 'trophy girlfriend', and as
such, they will be more interested in 'sex' than
they are interested in 'you'. (And you can just
bet that they'll trade in an older, 'dingier'
model for something younger as soon as they feel
it appropriate to do so.)
Bottom line: once again, it all boils down to
QUALITY. If you want a quality man (and
relationship), you've got to BE QUALITY YOURSELF.
Which means, 'multi-faceted' is IN, and 'Barbie
doll' is OUT.
Moving right along...
So what will flat-out help you to attract the
man (and life) of your dreams right onto your
doorstep?
FIRST OF ALL... you've GOT to take a look at
your ATTITUDE.
Quantum physics (the 'science of possibility')
states that our attitudes and beliefs are what
shape our reality. What's happening INSIDE us is
what determines the situation OUTSIDE of us.
So if you're giving too much air-time to that
Inner Critic who lives inside your head... or if
you're holding yourself back with artificial,
limiting beliefs about men and love...
... i.e. 'I'm too old to be attractive', 'I'm
just not pretty enough', 'No-one wants to date a
single mom', and so on...
...then the Universe will 'hear' you, and -
since the Universe always speaks your language -
that is then the situation that you will create
around you.
BUT, if you can develop an 'attitude of
gratitude' and actually APPRECIATE what you've
got, then very quickly you'll begin to experience
a paradigm shift - not only inside your heart and
mind, but also in your LIFE.
(That's the great thing about quantum physics -
the responsibility is squarely in YOUR lap. Can
anyone say... EMPOWERING?)
Your attitude about YOURSELF will also manifest
in your life.
For example, if you're acting out insecurity or
low self-image... for example, by doing things
that, deep down, you're not comfortable doing in
order to 'get' somebody's attention or affection...
...for example, getting 'physical' quickly in
order to 'get closer' to someone, or agreeing to
an exclusive relationship EVEN WHEN you don't
really want to, because you're unsure of what
other options you might have...
...then you've got to be aware that those
actions are rooted in FEAR and INSECURITY and will
inevitably come back to bite you on the butt.
Here's the deal: if you have sex before you'd
prefer because you want to 'get something' (a
commitment, some attention, someone to wake up
next to), then you are directly raising your
chances of ending up with a man who is USING YOU
for sex.
Why?
Because the Universe LISTENS to you and
REFLECTS your behaviors right back to you.
In this case, you would actually be using
YOURSELF as a 'tool' to 'get' something out of
someone else. The result is usually that the
people that this manipulative behavior actually
works on are the very same people who are
comfortable doing what you do - i.e. USING YOU.
Part of being a quality woman, and ending up
with the kind of quality man that you REALLY want
and deserve, is developing a little
self-awareness, actually paying some attention to
what's motivating you and what your REAL
INTENTIONS are, and bringing them into line with
who you are.
No falseness, manipulation, or 'faking it' is
required (or permitted) here. BEING quality will
GET YOU quality - there's just no short-changing
yourself in this department.
Here are a few solid tips to help you make sure
that you're not inadvertently sliding into false,
'needy', or accidentally-manipulative behavior:
- Don't be on call for him.
- Don't drop all your plans for him.
- Don't sit at home waiting for his text
messages or phone-call.
- Don't ditch your friends for him.
- Don't be the one he calls ONLY when he wants
something.
- Don't accept a 'date' after 10 pm (because by
this stage, it's not a date, it's a booty-call.)
- Don't be fooled by the belief that he will
change for you.
- Don't get led on by that little string of
hope he keeps dangling in front of you.
If you want people in your life to respect you
and genuinely care for you, then you've got to set
the tone. Men (and everyone else) will only think
as well of you as YOU think of yourself, so stop
second-guessing yourself and become your own
biggest fan. To get respect, you've gotta have it
for yourself.
By the way... all these things are PART of
being genuinely attractive to a man, but they're
not THE MOST fundamental thing.
I want you to think deeper than what everyone
else is telling you. Think deeper than
"conventional wisdom."
What is the single most FUNDAMENTAL thing that
a man wants in a sexual partner?
Think about it.
What's the one thing he HAS to have?
I can tell you straight off that it isn't
personality. There are plenty of lovely, funny,
and smart SINGLE women out there.
I can also tell you that it isn't looks.
Beautiful women get dumped every day.
Confidence is closer, but I still know shy
timid girls who are deemed desirable.
So what is it?
Get ready for the answer, because it's gonna
blow your mind... THE MOST IMPORTANT SECRET TO
MAKING MEN WANT YOU IS...
...that she's a WOMAN.
That's IT.
Men are attracted to FEMALES, plain and simple.
A WOMAN is someone who's completely different
from him in every way.
A WOMAN is someone who has intuition, is in
touch with her emotions, and can nurture and
support others through life's ups and downs.
A WOMAN is someone that a man can trust to
teach him how to feel, how to love, and how to
live life in its most fullest capacity.
See, you don't have to be a man's "best friend"
to attract him.
(And in fact, forming a 'friendship' with a
man, in the hopes of getting 'more than' down the
track, is a plain bad idea and it rarely works. If
a guy is attracted to you, he'll let you know
about it. And if he's NOT attracted to you, then
no amount of chumming around and being 'friends'
is going to CREATE attraction.)
Men cultivate masculine relationships - a.k.a.
FRIENDSHIPS - to satisfy COMPLETELY DIFFERENT
needs than the ones that they cultivate FEMALE
relationships for.
A man will go to other men to talk tough,
one-up each other, fix stuff (or, depending on
what kind of guy he is, break stuff), tinker
around, and generally wallow in MALENESS.
(That's M-A-L-E-NESS, by the way... the kind of
'masculinity' he DOESN'T want you around to
witness.)
He'll go to a WOMAN when he wants to talk about
his hopes and dreams. He'll go to a WOMAN when he
wants to feel loved or nurtured. He will go to a
WOMAN when he wants to feel supported.
He'll go to a WOMAN when he wants the SOFT
TOUCH.
A man wants a woman because she's a WOMAN... not
because she's his "best friend."
Not because she's "one of the guys," able to
match him shot for shot, or head a soccer ball
better than he can... and not because she resembles
him in his interests, passions, and abilities.
Unfortunately, a lot of women mistake
'closeness' for ATTRACTION, and try to strike up a
relationship by EMULATING a man... in the hopes
that 'alike' will create DESIRE.
Here's how it usually goes for most women:
After attracting a man, they get to know him a
little better, and come to a set of conclusions
(based on a semi-knowledge of his personality) of
what sort of woman he would most like to hang out
with.
As a result, they start to make all these
little 'alterations' to their personality. She'll
suddenly start liking HIS music. She'll drink beer
instead of white wine. She'll carve her 20-minute
morning 'wash-and-get-pretty' routine down to 5
minutes because she's 'embarrassed' about taking
care of herself. And she'll start spending more
time hanging out in sports bars, because that's
where he likes to hang out.
Why?
Because she thinks (wrongly, as it turns out)
that he will like her more and WANT HER more if
she more closely resembles HIM, and the (male)
friends he likes to hang out with.
WRONG!!
And before you know it, her original
personality (which incidentally, is what attracted
him in the first place) is GONE. Replaced by a
bizarre replica of the new man in her life.
Has this ever happened to you?
Have you ever been in that situation where a
guy goes to you when he wants to get drunk and be
naughty... but NOT the girl he wants to talk to
about love or his dreams?
This sort of thing happens when a man doesn't
see you as a WOMAN.
In your efforts to become "one of the boys,"
and get closer to him by EMULATING him...
...as opposed to having your OWN self, your OWN
opinions, and your own LIFE...
...you actually BECOME 'one of the boys' to him.
That's exactly how he now sees you... as a
'mate', not as a contender to be The Woman in his
life.
Since the feminism boom, women have been taught
that we can do 'anything.'
We can match the boys in any old area we want
to... the subtext being, 'and they'll just have to
suck it up.'
Here's the problem... if you're trying to
'compete' with men, or prove that 'women are equal
to men', that's going to come across as not only
egomaniacal, but also OFF-PUTTINGLY COMPETITIVE.
You can compete with a man, OR you can attract
him. You can't do both.
Now, that's not to say that women are somehow
'less than' than men are, or that we need to take
pains to reign in our brilliance in case we 'put
off the men'.
But it IS to say that when you're basing your
beliefs and actions in a need to 'prove something'
(read: COMPETE), then you can bet that men will
SENSE that about you, and be turned off.
It's true.
And what many women just go TOO FAR in the
whole 'we're just as good as men' concept without
even realizing it. They end up portraying
themselves as 'ball-busters' or 'hard women', and
of course, they then find it extremely difficult
to ALSO be attractive.
Why?
Does that mean that 'success' is 'unattractive'
in a woman?
Well, no. Not unless the kind of guy you're
setting your cap for is ALSO the kind of guy who
has deep-seated 'security issues' about his
masculinity.
What it DOES mean is that if you're succeeding
at something NOT out of a genuine desire to
SUCCEED, but instead are operating out of a desire
to 'win' over MEN, then THAT is what's
unattractive... because it's UNFEMININE. It's
competitive, it's not sexy, and it's just not
attractive.
So if you want to compete with a guy, fine...
but don't expect to have him eating out of the
palm of your hand as soon as business hours are
over.
In the process of trying to make themselves
more 'liberated' and gain all of the freedoms that
men have, many women have, in the eyes of the
guys, essentially BECOME MEN.
They've embraced their masculine
'competitiveness' over their femininity, in the
belief that this is what's required to get what
you want in life.
They've managed to squash the very feminine
essence that makes them attractive to men!
QUICK NOTE: When you start comparing yourself
with the opposite sex, you are setting yourself up
for trouble!
And by the way...
There's no threshold that you cross over that
qualifies you as the 'feminine' kind of woman that
men are attracted to.
Discovering and unleashing your femininity is a
PROCESS. You're going to continue learning more
about what it means to be a woman until the day
you die.
But to speed things up a bit, I'm going to give
you three mind-blowing principles right now that
have the power to COMPLETELY TRANSFORM your life.
MIRABELLE'S CRASH COURSE IN ATTRACTION
TIP #1: Avoid getting too set in your ways.
If you want to be the kind of WOMAN that a MAN
desires, then it's time to shake things up a bit.
The main issue that most women have in this
area is, they get too set in what they're LOOKING
for. They know the exact kind of man they want,
and they're not even going to waste any time
DATING anyone who doesn't match the picture
they've got in their heads of Mr Right.
This is a great way to cheat yourself out of a
LOT of dates, and a LOT of great relationships.
Challenge yourself. Don't get too comfortable.
Loosen up your ideals a bit and try dating people
'just to see what happens', instead of dating to
'find someone'.
There are still things you are being called to
learn and grow from. If you believe you have
reached the pinnacle of your success, you have
nothing left to achieve.
The minute your life seems to be just the way
you like it, STIR THINGS UP. Do something that
scares you just a little bit.
Here's another common situation: the situation
where you spend all your time striving to get
things 'just so', and you're not going to be
'happy' UNTIL you get things 'just so'.
For example, 'I'm going to be happy when I've
got a great relationship.'
Or, 'I'll really be able to relax when I get
that pay rise.'
Try this on for size: the point of your life is
NOT to have things just the way you want them.
The minute everything gets just the way you
want it, something's going to happen and blow your
house of cards to bits.
It's important for your lifestyle, for your
hope of a great relationship, and for your own
irresistibility, that you keep your life in a
state of FLUX. Don't get too focused on one thing:
the only thing that tunnel vision's good for is
IGNORING everything else that's out there.
If you're afraid of change... or afraid of loss...
or afraid of losing a bit of control... then it's
time to face those fears and see them for what
they really are.
It's not a pretty word, and it's a difficult
one to get your head around...
...It's called INSECURITY.
Insecurity often manifests itself in an extreme
desire to CONTROL things.
The mindset of working to "get" things (and
thus, control) becomes entrenched. You work hard
to get money, which equals financial security. You
work out at the gym to "get" the body you desire,
so your self-esteem is cemented and so you feel
that you can attract a suitable man.
It's easy to get into the mindset of
"acquiring" things to improve your life.
And most of the time, there's nothing wrong
with that. Working hard to get what you want is a
handy mindset to have, when you're talking about a
career or a possession.
But a man is not an acquisition. A man is
something that will turn up in your life when
you're able to RELAX and just chill out - not when
you're hell-bent on controlling your environment,
and DEFINITELY not when you're busy excluding all
sorts of guys from your life because they 'don't
match up'.
TIP #2: Set clear boundaries with men.
Ever heard the phrase 'doormat'?
It's something that many MANY women turn
themselves into in a vain struggle to become 'more
attractive' to men.
Women who are 'doormats' are the ones who give
when they don't actually WANT to give.
They do things for others (guys) because they
want to be more desired, more appreciated, and to
create more of a bond. (Hint: this is actually
MANIPULATIVE, although most women don't realize it
at the time.)
Unfortunately, men can actually TELL when your
actions are rooted in insecurity or fear... in this
case, a fear that you won't be 'enough' UNLESS you
act a certain way or give a certain thing.
And, far from being attractive, it's actually a
MASSIVE turn-off... and usually results in poor
treatment, LESS of a bond than before, and
significantly decreased respect. (Feelings of
confusion and frustration on both sides are also
common.)
Fortunately, the antidote is simple: SET CLEAR
BOUNDARIES. Learn the art of being straight-up
with people (and men, in particular), and
recognize that trying to 'get people' to like you
by acting a certain way is MANIPULATIVE and
UNATTRACTIVE... and will directly contradict all
other efforts to be truly high-quality and
desirable.
A good skill to learn is the art of saying 'no'
WITHOUT feeling or creating any awkwardness.
For example, if your date calls you up at 7pm
for an 8.30 pm date, and you would feel
inconvenienced by dropping everything to meet him
(as you SHOULD feel, by the way)...
- A 'doormat' would FEEL the inconvenience and
the resentment, but go ahead and meet him anyway,
thus poisoning the evening for both people by
failing to act on her own feelings. Her date then
gets the message that she's the kind of woman
who's afraid of honesty and directness, and
figures that she'll end up being a liability
further down the track.
- A quality woman would say, 'Actually, I've
got an early start tomorrow, but I'm free later
this week. Why don't we meet up then at a more
convenient time?' ... and is thus able to stay true
to herself, be honest with her guy, AND enjoy a
date at a time that suits HER.
The message her date gets: 'My life and my priorities
are important to me, but you matter too, so let's
figure out something that suits BOTH of us.' ... and
his respect (and desire) for her GROWS.
Once you figure out how to set boundaries, and you
actually internalize the fact that the word 'No'
is going to INCREASE the quality of your life (and
your self-respect, your desirability, your energy
levels ...), you're going to start seeing a big
turn-around in the quality and quantity of your
dates, and things will start to happen very
quickly.
TIP #3: Come to terms with your past and
your future.
This is another aspect of your life where the
word 'RESPONSIBILITY' plays a HUGE role in your
day-to-day life, AND your attraction.
'Baggage' is something that just about
everybody has. However, SOME women allow the
weight of their baggage to actively shape the life
that they're living today, and this translates
into nothing but aggravation and DECREASED quality
in the here-and-now.
Your past is part of who you are and what you
have grown into, and while we are shaped by the
events of our past, we are by no means DEFINED by
them... that is, unless we choose to.
For example, many women feel 'emotionally
crippled' by previous relationships with men, and
have reached the point where they feel 'unable' or
unwilling to 'try again' with a new man.
The problem with this is that, once again, your
BELIEFS are creating a NEGATIVE REALITY for you.
You are effectively 'imprisoning yourself' in the
past by forbidding yourself the ability to move
on, to forgive what's happened, and to embrace the
possibilities of right now.
Let me tell you a little story...
>>>>
There were two Buddhist monks sitting quietly
together under a tree. After many years of
imprisonment and torture, they had finally been
released from their cells and were free to go.
One monk turned to another. 'Have you forgiven
your imprisoners?' he said.
The other monk looked appalled. 'Of course
not!' he said. 'How on earth could I ever forgive
them for all the things they did to me?'
The other monk regarded him calmly. 'Then I
suppose you're still imprisoned,' he said.
>>>>
The parable of the monks is similar to your
own, if you're still lugging around baggage from
the past. If you are permitting pain from the past
to shape the reality of your life as it is right
now, then you're in a prison of your own making.
You're CHOOSING to accept the fact that the past
will forever have a hold on you, and that you
would rather LIVE in the past than move on and
live in the NOW.
The key is FORGIVENESS (otherwise known as
'moving on'.)
To forgive means that you make a conscious
decision to STOP giving mental energy to
whatever has happened in the past. It's not about
absolving someone else of responsibility - for
example, if you feel that someone has wronged you,
know that this is not about saying, 'That's OK
that you did this to me.'
Instead, it's about freeing yourself from the
emotional burden of looking at life from a past
perspective, and admitting to yourself that you
are ready to move on WITHOUT bringing forward
baggage or burdens from 'before'.
Only when you are able to relinquish the past
and accept that it's over will you be able to live
fully in the present moment... and only then will
you be able to recognize and make the most of the
opportunities that present themselves to you each
day.
Until you can forgive (read: accept, and move
on), you will still be stuck in the prison of the
past.
Equally, while you're on the subject of the
past, it's not going to hurt to turn your mental
gaze the other direction: to the FUTURE.
If you have no clue where your life is heading,
then I suggest that you spend some time figuring
it out.
Some women have GREAT ideas for their lives...
but they change their minds every few months (or
weeks or days).
The result? They never accomplish anything.
They lack the initiative to set a plan of action
to help them achieve.
Think about it... if you're an arrow heading for
a target, then suddenly change direction to hit
another target, you're going to run out of steam
and drop to the ground before you manage to hit
ANYTHING.
Set a goal for yourself, and STICK to it. Start
sticking to your word. Don't lay awake at night
worrying if you made the right decision or whether
you'd like something better. ANY decision is
better than no decision at all!
If the magnitude of the goal frightens you,
then set smaller goals that move you along in
incremental steps until you know enough to
determine whether that direction is right for you.
By the way... smaller goals are a good idea
because you're more likely to achieve them. The
rush of achievement from fulfilling a goal is a
high like no other... and gradually, as your
confidence grows, you can start to set larger,
more challenging goals.
But take it one step at a time! Don't rush the
process!
For example, it may not be helpful to think to
yourself, 'My goal is to get engaged and married
within the next six months' if right now you are
single and not dating anyone.
But having a SMALLER goal - one that you know
that you can meet and fulfill, with some effort -
will act as a motivating force in your life, and
will empower you once you've completed it. For
example, 'meeting and dating three men in the next
eight weeks' is much more of a sustainable goal.
Once you come to terms with this fact, and are
able to externalize this truth in your day to day
life, your relationships are going to be a lot
happier and healthier!
SIDE NOTE: You may like to check this out:
==>> http://www.meetyoursweet.com/selfconfidence/women/
...You'll learn how to assert yourself in a way
that SUPPORTS your irresistibility, how to never
doubt yourself again, how to say goodbye to a low
self-image and low self-esteem, and how to NEVER
be a 'doormat' again. It's quality.
With love,
Mirabelle Summers
MeetYourSweet.com
.
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Fwd: Should you RESCUE a woman? - Michael Fiore
Be a man that you are. Avoid being a victim of bitches. Slay the dragon
---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Michael Fiore <feedback@texttheromanceback.com>
Date: Thu, Jul 5, 2012 at 11:50 PM
Subject: Should you RESCUE a woman?
Text The Romance Back., 1463 E. Republican St., #28A, Seattle, WA 98112, USA
From: Michael Fiore <feedback@texttheromanceback.com>
Date: Thu, Jul 5, 2012 at 11:50 PM
Subject: Should you RESCUE a woman?
Hey, it's Mike Fiore . . .
How was your Fourth of July?
I've got one big question for
you in today's newsletter:
As always, you can comment on any one of
these questions and offer up your opinion
on my Facebook wall at http://ttrb.me/facebook.
Michael Carrillo
"Right now I am still in love with my ex-girlfriend.
We had been dating for six months when all of a
sudden the man she had been engaged to before we
started seeing each other came back into the picture.
She said she owed it to herself to see if she had
feelings for him which is when she broke up with me.
Now it has been a month and she has been living in
his house, but insists that she is not in love with
this guy. She sends me texts and calls me at least
once a week to tell me she misses me and that she
made a mistake and wants to be with me. Yet she
is still with this guy in his house. She is
telling me it is complicated, to be patient,
and have faith because she is in love with me.
I know this is bad for me because the stress
is giving me insomnia, but I have tried moving
on since then. I have been talking to other
women and have reconnected with a former girlfriend,
but can only be with friends with her because of
what happened in the past. Am I being a fool
for still loving this girl and thinking that
she will come back to me?"
Stop being so god damned respectful and understanding.
Seriously.
I know, I know. It's 2012. We're supposed to
be all "feminist" now (I'll probably write
a whole newsletter about how both men
and women misinterpret the word
"feminism" by the way. I'm a feminist,
but not in the way most folks think.)
. . .
But what you're doing now . . . "waiting around"
for her, twiddling your thumbs and "giving her
time to figure things out" is about as effective,
attractive and sexy as cutting off your own testicles
and making some kind of stew out of them.
If you truly love this girl, man up,
stop being so nice and go freaking rescue
her from this idiotic ogre.
Slay some dragons. Crawl over broken glass.
Do everything you can to get her back
in your house and out of his.
And her saying it's "complicated"
is pure, unmitigated BS. Either
she wants to be with him or wants to be
with you. Put it on the line.
Go to her. Seduce her. Show her
that you're strong and committed.
FIGHT for her.
Be unreasonable about it.
Be vicious.
Be a man.
And if you "lose?" If you make
a sincere play to make her YOURS
with all the conviction and doggedness
of Mario rescuing the princess from
Bowser (hells yeah, a freaking Mario
Bros. reference . . .)
If after all that she still
wants to "try things out"
with this douchebag?
Then you walk away and you never
look back.
But what you're doing right now . . .
"Waiting around" for her . . . being
her emotional crutch . . .
Ugh.
Not sexy, dude.
It makes me want to pet your head
like a puppy and see if you'll chase
a stick.
Agree? Disagree?
Let me know on Facebook.
Mike Fiore
P.S. As always, feel free to pass
this newsletter on to your friends.
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