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From: Carlos Xuma <carlosxuma@alphaconfidence.com>
Date: Mon, Jun 3, 2013 at 8:23 AM
Subject: Carlos Asks: Why do Bad Boys win?
I had a few minutes to send this mail
over to you... and I think you'll find
it interesting.
My girl-toy "C" sent this along for you.
It's about "bad boys." Read through to the end for
my comments.
-----------
MESSAGE TO MEN FROM A WOMAN:
Attention all intelligent
men, there is a crisis at hand -
beautiful eligible women are being swept
away by beasts masquerading as real men.
Women are often attracted to "bad boys"
because they are aggressively pursued by
them.
What women want is to be wooed and wowed
by men. Unfortunately, too many women
are falling prey to these "thug loves"
-they usually end up emotionally and
sometimes even physically abused.
These so-called "bad boys" are winning
women over simply because they are
assertive, confident, cocky, and
competitive. In of itself these are not
all bad traits, but mixed with the
definition of a bad boy: selfish,
dishonest, arrogant, abusive,
irresponsible...
Basically, everyone is walking around
like an advertisement for who she or he
is. First impressions are vitally
important. If all someone sees is cocky
and arrogant - than boom that's your
brand.
A woman I met recently at a cocktail
party leaned into me, eyed me coyly, and
uttered in a somewhat slurred and raspy
voice, "why is it I always fall for the
bad boys." She then proceeded to tell me
about an arrogant garish man she met at
a cafĂ in London." I was sitting alone
enjoying my tea, when James and I met.
He looked at me and I melted, he then
said "what are you looking at you
stuck-up American Bitch." That was it
she said, in an even more slurred and
vacant tone "I was in love." For added
effect, she pretended to faint.
I found this fascinating; if a guy said
that to me I would perhaps be
speechless, (it happens) I would
certainly not be attracted to him- but
rather disgusted. I have never felt any
frisson of attraction with an overtly
bad boy.
Her story rapidly deteriorated. They
ended up dating for 6 months, he treated
her horrible and it finally ended when
he hit her. Awful. So yes, some women
will fall for and stay with bad boys.
Obviously, these women lack sound
judgment and have major self-esteem
issues. Hopefully, not anyone's ultimate
goal in a date, even if you are only
looking for a one night stand. Sure, you
may score, but...
Most women do not want to be crudely
manipulated by men. That's not to say
that all manipulation is bad - it just
needs to be subtle and caressing like a
masseur- not whipped into submission
like a hunk of abalone...
Men are so much more alluring when they
have a combination of confidence
intertwined with that cocky/ funny thing
and frosted with a sort of sexy
vulnerability. Women do not want to be
with men who are known players. Being
with a man who is a player does not
satisfy our ego.
I like well-rounded men that have a bit
of a twisted sense of humor, are
inherently kind, interested and versed
on political, psychological, and
spiritual matters.
Oh yea, and a bit naughty...
You see, it's all about the fine art of
balance.
______________________
CARLOS COMMENTS:
Yeah, balance is definitely where a lot
of guys go wrong. Unfortunately, the
imbalance is rarely to the arrogant end
of the spectrum. It's way over on the
wussy end.
Most guys mistakenly believe that
if they can prove themselves as being
"nice" to women, that they'll just flock
to his door.
And we know that's not so...
The Bad Boy often is very attractive to
two kinds of women:
1) The woman with low self-esteem. She
doesn't feel that she deserves better,
so she'll take this guy because he
challenges her like no other man will.
2) The woman who needs a heavy dose of
emotional turbulence to feel attracted
to a man. She's a thrill-junkie. She
wants the roller coaster ride that he
can provide.
A lot of women are, by nature, addicted
to emotional intensity. It's something
that I would call a disorder, actually.
Think about it: Women love to shop. They
call it "retail therapy."
What is it really?
It's an excuse to give themselves a
"happy injection" by picking up a nice
new something from the store.
And then, after the buzz of getting
something new has worn off, they find
another reason to be unhappy about
something else. The cycle starts again,
from happy ... to emotional disquiet ...
and back again.
I know a guy who would joke with women
by dangling his bracelet in front their
eyes like a hypnotist and say,
"Loooook.... shiny! Pretty thing! Follow
the shiny object! Good girl!"
The whole time he's holding it in front
of their faces, most of the girls would
just laugh because they realize that
he's being funny, but he's also right.
Women LIKE flashy visual images.
Pictures on glossy magazines... flashy
commercials... Shiny jewelry.
(Who says women aren't visual? It's just
for different reasons than men.)
Bad Boys are like this, too. They give
women a spike to the vein, a quick
injection of excitement and turmoil that
will feed their emotional engine for
weeks. Many women outgrow this need, but
a lot of women never will.
I would add to "C"s interpretation that
"a bit naughty" is subjective. But
naughty MUST be in the mix if you want
to spark her excitement and attraction.
There are a lot of ingredients to the
recipe of attraction, and you don't want
to miss any of them.
There are a lot of ways to trigger her
feelings of attraction, and I've
dedicated my entire life to showing you
how. That's how serious I am about this
stuff.
I also wanted to apologize if I confused
you. I think I may have, by accident.
I was just thinking about it this
morning and I realized that you might
not be aware of everything I've got that
can help you out. I know that since
you've been reading the newsletters all
this time, and you're still a loyal
subscriber, you must be dedicated to
making a better life for yourself.
And I've got the information to help you
get that better life. Not just with
women, either.
More SUCCESS in every way possible.
Better relationships. Better job. Better
income.
Better EVERYTHING.
I created something that will show you
exactly how to steal the power of the
"Bad Boy" - without becoming one yourself.
Get it here:
Discover The Bad Boy Secrets
That Will Turn Women Into Instant
Love Junkies...
Stay Alpha...!
- Carlos Xuma
PS: Steal the power of the
"Bad Boy" - without becoming one yourself.
Get it here:
www.carlosxuma.com/bad-boy-nice-guy/
.
____________________________________________
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simply click the link at the bottom of this
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© Carlos Xuma & Morpheus Productions, LLC
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PO Box 4925
Foster City, CA 94404
JFrom: Carlos Xuma <carlosxuma@alphaconfidence.com>
Date: Mon, Jun 3, 2013 at 8:23 AM
Subject: Carlos Asks: Why do Bad Boys win?
I had a few minutes to send this mail
over to you... and I think you'll find
it interesting.
My girl-toy "C" sent this along for you.
It's about "bad boys." Read through to the end for
my comments.
-----------
MESSAGE TO MEN FROM A WOMAN:
Attention all intelligent
men, there is a crisis at hand -
beautiful eligible women are being swept
away by beasts masquerading as real men.
Women are often attracted to "bad boys"
because they are aggressively pursued by
them.
What women want is to be wooed and wowed
by men. Unfortunately, too many women
are falling prey to these "thug loves"
-they usually end up emotionally and
sometimes even physically abused.
These so-called "bad boys" are winning
women over simply because they are
assertive, confident, cocky, and
competitive. In of itself these are not
all bad traits, but mixed with the
definition of a bad boy: selfish,
dishonest, arrogant, abusive,
irresponsible...
Basically, everyone is walking around
like an advertisement for who she or he
is. First impressions are vitally
important. If all someone sees is cocky
and arrogant - than boom that's your
brand.
A woman I met recently at a cocktail
party leaned into me, eyed me coyly, and
uttered in a somewhat slurred and raspy
voice, "why is it I always fall for the
bad boys." She then proceeded to tell me
about an arrogant garish man she met at
a cafĂ in London." I was sitting alone
enjoying my tea, when James and I met.
He looked at me and I melted, he then
said "what are you looking at you
stuck-up American Bitch." That was it
she said, in an even more slurred and
vacant tone "I was in love." For added
effect, she pretended to faint.
I found this fascinating; if a guy said
that to me I would perhaps be
speechless, (it happens) I would
certainly not be attracted to him- but
rather disgusted. I have never felt any
frisson of attraction with an overtly
bad boy.
Her story rapidly deteriorated. They
ended up dating for 6 months, he treated
her horrible and it finally ended when
he hit her. Awful. So yes, some women
will fall for and stay with bad boys.
Obviously, these women lack sound
judgment and have major self-esteem
issues. Hopefully, not anyone's ultimate
goal in a date, even if you are only
looking for a one night stand. Sure, you
may score, but...
Most women do not want to be crudely
manipulated by men. That's not to say
that all manipulation is bad - it just
needs to be subtle and caressing like a
masseur- not whipped into submission
like a hunk of abalone...
Men are so much more alluring when they
have a combination of confidence
intertwined with that cocky/ funny thing
and frosted with a sort of sexy
vulnerability. Women do not want to be
with men who are known players. Being
with a man who is a player does not
satisfy our ego.
I like well-rounded men that have a bit
of a twisted sense of humor, are
inherently kind, interested and versed
on political, psychological, and
spiritual matters.
Oh yea, and a bit naughty...
You see, it's all about the fine art of
balance.
______________________
CARLOS COMMENTS:
Yeah, balance is definitely where a lot
of guys go wrong. Unfortunately, the
imbalance is rarely to the arrogant end
of the spectrum. It's way over on the
wussy end.
Most guys mistakenly believe that
if they can prove themselves as being
"nice" to women, that they'll just flock
to his door.
And we know that's not so...
The Bad Boy often is very attractive to
two kinds of women:
1) The woman with low self-esteem. She
doesn't feel that she deserves better,
so she'll take this guy because he
challenges her like no other man will.
2) The woman who needs a heavy dose of
emotional turbulence to feel attracted
to a man. She's a thrill-junkie. She
wants the roller coaster ride that he
can provide.
A lot of women are, by nature, addicted
to emotional intensity. It's something
that I would call a disorder, actually.
Think about it: Women love to shop. They
call it "retail therapy."
What is it really?
It's an excuse to give themselves a
"happy injection" by picking up a nice
new something from the store.
And then, after the buzz of getting
something new has worn off, they find
another reason to be unhappy about
something else. The cycle starts again,
from happy ... to emotional disquiet ...
and back again.
I know a guy who would joke with women
by dangling his bracelet in front their
eyes like a hypnotist and say,
"Loooook.... shiny! Pretty thing! Follow
the shiny object! Good girl!"
The whole time he's holding it in front
of their faces, most of the girls would
just laugh because they realize that
he's being funny, but he's also right.
Women LIKE flashy visual images.
Pictures on glossy magazines... flashy
commercials... Shiny jewelry.
(Who says women aren't visual? It's just
for different reasons than men.)
Bad Boys are like this, too. They give
women a spike to the vein, a quick
injection of excitement and turmoil that
will feed their emotional engine for
weeks. Many women outgrow this need, but
a lot of women never will.
I would add to "C"s interpretation that
"a bit naughty" is subjective. But
naughty MUST be in the mix if you want
to spark her excitement and attraction.
There are a lot of ingredients to the
recipe of attraction, and you don't want
to miss any of them.
There are a lot of ways to trigger her
feelings of attraction, and I've
dedicated my entire life to showing you
how. That's how serious I am about this
stuff.
I also wanted to apologize if I confused
you. I think I may have, by accident.
I was just thinking about it this
morning and I realized that you might
not be aware of everything I've got that
can help you out. I know that since
you've been reading the newsletters all
this time, and you're still a loyal
subscriber, you must be dedicated to
making a better life for yourself.
And I've got the information to help you
get that better life. Not just with
women, either.
More SUCCESS in every way possible.
Better relationships. Better job. Better
income.
Better EVERYTHING.
I created something that will show you
exactly how to steal the power of the
"Bad Boy" - without becoming one yourself.
Get it here:
Discover The Bad Boy Secrets
That Will Turn Women Into Instant
Love Junkies...
Stay Alpha...!
- Carlos Xuma
PS: Steal the power of the
"Bad Boy" - without becoming one yourself.
Get it here:
www.carlosxuma.com/bad-boy-nice-guy/
.
____________________________________________
You have received this message because you
subscribed to my newsletter on one of my sites.
I have no desire to annoy you, only to provide
you with the BEST dating tips for guys. If you
would like to unsubscribe from this newsletter,
simply click the link at the bottom of this
email and we'll remove you immediately.
© Carlos Xuma & Morpheus Productions, LLC
Morpheus Productions, LLC
PO Box 4925
Foster City, CA 94404
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