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From: Carlos Xuma
Date: Sat, Jun 22, 2013 at 7:32 AM
Subject: Bruce Lee's martial art of attraction...
GET SOME R.E.A.L. CLARITY
Is there too much information out there
on this topic?
Have we reached info-saturation on
pickup and attraction?
I was pondering this the other day as I
was putting together information for a
presentation, and it stuck with me. I
think that the subject of attraction and
pickup should be as easy as possible to
learn and to use.
A few years ago, I was subscribed to a
bunch of newsletters on the topic of
seduction. After a while, it got to be
just way too much, and it was making it
harder for me to arrive at my own
understanding.
You'll find that lot of the info out
there is basically the same. Everyone
wants to convince you that THEY have
found the answer. What we've found is a
bunch of answers to a lot of questions -
not just one.
We don't need more complex models and
clever diagrams. We need CLARITY.
You need more exercises that will
actually put you on the path to getting
better with women, and in all social
situations. You need more examples and
maps to find the path that suits you.
Have you noticed that there are very few
people who can give you exercises that
are PRACTICAL at helping you with Inner
game?
Why is that?
Let's look at the problem. First of all:
1) You need motivation.
Face it, we all want to be motivated and
inspired by someone. It's hard to stay
motivated every day and all the time.
Humans are lazy by nature. The funny
thing about laziness is this: We go
through all kinds of EFFORT and WORK to
be lazy.
How do you think such things as the
remote control and the recliner with
drink holders were invented?
Human beings put out unbelievable effort
in the NOW to avoid work in the LATER.
Each one of those people that invented
those time-saving, effort-saving things
thought it was a wonderful idea, or they
just wanted to get rich. Either way,
they motivated themselves with the
promise of a better future if they would
just invest time in something right now.
Think about that for a minute, then
rejoin me. I'll be here.
Now as for motivation, well that's like
taking a shower. Every time you get it,
you feel great, but it wears off.
Tomorrow, you'll need motivation all
over again.
NOBODY is motivated 100% of the time, no
matter what you may think.
NOBODY is good with women 100% of the
time.
NOBODY is happy 100% of the time.
It all comes down to your own fire and
drive. Moods come and go, but action
speaks volumes.
or watching a program once will get you
that motivation. You have to be willing
to pick it up and re-read it ten times
(minimum) to really start to ingrain the
beliefs in your thinking.
2) You don't need another
graph/chart/picture/clever analytical
method. You need ANSWERS.
There are some guys out there that are
so hung up on the analytical side of
this stuff that they get into REAL
trouble when it comes to making more
pictures of how to graph attraction and
buying temperature and social value and
...
Jeez Louise.
It's time to put your scientific
calculators away and just own up to the
ACTION you must take. To improve your
inner game will require work - and some
of it might scare you.
Ultimately, the more information you try
to find out there, the more you are
really trying to avoid DOING what you
know you must DO. We're seeking the Holy
Grail of attraction and pickup
techniques, but what we end up doing is
not putting the EFFORT in. By studying
instead of doing, you get to feel the
pleasure of learning, and avoid the pain
of practicing.
and go meet women. It's much easier to
sit inside and surf some nasty pictures,
or post to a forum. Or maybe even figure
out if you plot the data points of a
woman's interest against her body
language you'll get the square root of
... well, nothing.
On the other hand, if you can accept the
total reality that if you learn AND
apply, you will succeed. It is as
inevitable as the day following the
night.
I believe in the Jeet Kune Do philosophy
as applied to the Art of Attraction. I
call this (jokingly) "Jeet Kune Dating."
Here's your acronym for the week. I
offer it to clarify and help. If it
doesn't do that, forget it.
calm keeps you at your best, your
ability to connect to your innate
abilities. E = Effective & Energized -
It has power - Alpha Power. Raise your
energy level. A = Authentic & Alpha - It
has to be YOU, and it has to be the
Masculine you. L = Lifestyle & Lasting
- Because it's NATURAL to you, you'll
never lose it - No separation from your
identity.
Bruce Lee sought to reconcile all the
various styles and methods he saw in the
community of Martial Arts. He created
the Tao of Jeet Kune Do as an answer to
this, explaining that NO-style should be
your style. It comes from a personal set
of beliefs.
I try my best to perform the same
function for guys today. By providing
them with tools that they can adapt to
their personalities, they can build on
the foundation of their REAL selves to
achieve success more readily.
Other methods often require you to slap
a whole structure on top of a foundation
(i.e., personality) that it may not fit.
It makes more sense to start with
building blocks of that person's
personality type to give them their own
individual approach. In the end, every
man that achieves true success with
women will end up with his own UNIQUE
style anyway.
Wherever you go, there you are.
In the Tao of Jeet Kune Do, Bruce Lee's
book on his philosophy of fighting arts,
he talks about the six diseases that
plague us. I think they are
frighteningly relevant to the art of
attraction and pickup, and so I offer
them to you here.
Consider also that following any one
"system" is only a stepping stone to
greater growth. In fact, if you follow
any particular system of pickup or
seduction (or whatever you choose to
call it), then you are also using a
'technique,' but in a much larger sense.
1) "The desire for victory."
Ah, how this plagues so many men. The
need for results and desire for women
puts us in a dangerous head space. We
must let go of attachment to results,
but pursue them to a conclusion.
2) "The desire to resort to technical
cunning."
Again, too strong an attachment to a
technique fails to grasp the
understanding that we must all CUSTOMIZE
our approach to our R.E.A.L. selves.
3) "The desire to display all that has
been learned."
Wow. I have to raise my hand at that
one. I've done this a lot. You learn a
ton of clever stuff, and you gotta
unload it. In the end, you probably
could have done without it all. You just
act from the confidence that HAVING it
means you don't have to USE it.
4) "The desire to awe the enemy."
This would be all of us. What guy hasn't
let his ego creep into his approach or
interaction with a woman and ruin things
by being the braggart or boaster? Just
Relax and let her discover you. Not get
overwhelmed by you.
5) "The desire to play the passive
role."
We, as men, must be the initiators. I
know there's a ton of clever stuff out
there that appeals to a guy's desire to
not approach or not take action to get
women attracted to him, but the REALity
persists. You must be the one to take
action. Initiate. It's your destiny and
your birthright. Don't shirk it.
6) "The desire to get rid of whatever
disease one is affected by."
This one is the toughest to understand,
in that Zen koan sort of way. I think
what is meant by this is that to
succeed, you can't be constantly
wrestling with your weaknesses. You
can't let go when you're trying to get
rid of them.
You must simply dilute them with the
power of your strengths. I think that a
big part of this thinking is that if I
focus too much on overcoming my
weaknesses, I succumb to them.
Take that with a grain of common sense.
Desire is a part of human nature. But in
the end. you will only be as successful
to the degree that you LET GO, not cling
desperately to your 'style' or your
'techniques' or your methods.
Remember, long after all the clever
lines and approaches have been exposed,
your authenticity and REAL character
will never be out of style or a
liability. You can't get CAUGHT if
you're being YOU.
Get REAL. BE real.
For more information on how to get this
attitude, have a look here
Stay Alpha...!
- Carlos Xuma
.
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From: Carlos Xuma
Date: Sat, Jun 22, 2013 at 7:32 AM
Subject: Bruce Lee's martial art of attraction...
GET SOME R.E.A.L. CLARITY
Is there too much information out there
on this topic?
Have we reached info-saturation on
pickup and attraction?
I was pondering this the other day as I
was putting together information for a
presentation, and it stuck with me. I
think that the subject of attraction and
pickup should be as easy as possible to
learn and to use.
A few years ago, I was subscribed to a
bunch of newsletters on the topic of
seduction. After a while, it got to be
just way too much, and it was making it
harder for me to arrive at my own
understanding.
You'll find that lot of the info out
there is basically the same. Everyone
wants to convince you that THEY have
found the answer. What we've found is a
bunch of answers to a lot of questions -
not just one.
We don't need more complex models and
clever diagrams. We need CLARITY.
You need more exercises that will
actually put you on the path to getting
better with women, and in all social
situations. You need more examples and
maps to find the path that suits you.
Have you noticed that there are very few
people who can give you exercises that
are PRACTICAL at helping you with Inner
game?
Why is that?
Let's look at the problem. First of all:
1) You need motivation.
Face it, we all want to be motivated and
inspired by someone. It's hard to stay
motivated every day and all the time.
Humans are lazy by nature. The funny
thing about laziness is this: We go
through all kinds of EFFORT and WORK to
be lazy.
How do you think such things as the
remote control and the recliner with
drink holders were invented?
Human beings put out unbelievable effort
in the NOW to avoid work in the LATER.
Each one of those people that invented
those time-saving, effort-saving things
thought it was a wonderful idea, or they
just wanted to get rich. Either way,
they motivated themselves with the
promise of a better future if they would
just invest time in something right now.
Think about that for a minute, then
rejoin me. I'll be here.
Now as for motivation, well that's like
taking a shower. Every time you get it,
you feel great, but it wears off.
Tomorrow, you'll need motivation all
over again.
NOBODY is motivated 100% of the time, no
matter what you may think.
NOBODY is good with women 100% of the
time.
NOBODY is happy 100% of the time.
It all comes down to your own fire and
drive. Moods come and go, but action
speaks volumes.
It's YOUR job to find what motivates you
and leverage it to keep you going. I
don't care if it's tapes or e-books or 2
triple espressos in the morning. You
have to go to the source of your
motivation and drink from the well, my
friend.
Don't think that reading an e-book onceand leverage it to keep you going. I
don't care if it's tapes or e-books or 2
triple espressos in the morning. You
have to go to the source of your
motivation and drink from the well, my
friend.
or watching a program once will get you
that motivation. You have to be willing
to pick it up and re-read it ten times
(minimum) to really start to ingrain the
beliefs in your thinking.
2) You don't need another
graph/chart/picture/clever analytical
method. You need ANSWERS.
There are some guys out there that are
so hung up on the analytical side of
this stuff that they get into REAL
trouble when it comes to making more
pictures of how to graph attraction and
buying temperature and social value and
...
Jeez Louise.
It's time to put your scientific
calculators away and just own up to the
ACTION you must take. To improve your
inner game will require work - and some
of it might scare you.
Ultimately, the more information you try
to find out there, the more you are
really trying to avoid DOING what you
know you must DO. We're seeking the Holy
Grail of attraction and pickup
techniques, but what we end up doing is
not putting the EFFORT in. By studying
instead of doing, you get to feel the
pleasure of learning, and avoid the pain
of practicing.
Remember: Anything worth doing will NOT
be easy.
Let me say it again.be easy.
Anything worth doing in life will NOT be
easy!
And it's not easy to get off your butteasy!
and go meet women. It's much easier to
sit inside and surf some nasty pictures,
or post to a forum. Or maybe even figure
out if you plot the data points of a
woman's interest against her body
language you'll get the square root of
... well, nothing.
On the other hand, if you can accept the
total reality that if you learn AND
apply, you will succeed. It is as
inevitable as the day following the
night.
I believe in the Jeet Kune Do philosophy
as applied to the Art of Attraction. I
call this (jokingly) "Jeet Kune Dating."
Here's your acronym for the week. I
offer it to clarify and help. If it
doesn't do that, forget it.
R.E.A.L.
R = Relaxed & Resourceful - Cool andcalm keeps you at your best, your
ability to connect to your innate
abilities. E = Effective & Energized -
It has power - Alpha Power. Raise your
energy level. A = Authentic & Alpha - It
has to be YOU, and it has to be the
Masculine you. L = Lifestyle & Lasting
- Because it's NATURAL to you, you'll
never lose it - No separation from your
identity.
R.E.A.L. Game. This is what I use to
help guys get their inner game solid.
Back to Bruce.help guys get their inner game solid.
Bruce Lee sought to reconcile all the
various styles and methods he saw in the
community of Martial Arts. He created
the Tao of Jeet Kune Do as an answer to
this, explaining that NO-style should be
your style. It comes from a personal set
of beliefs.
I try my best to perform the same
function for guys today. By providing
them with tools that they can adapt to
their personalities, they can build on
the foundation of their REAL selves to
achieve success more readily.
Other methods often require you to slap
a whole structure on top of a foundation
(i.e., personality) that it may not fit.
It makes more sense to start with
building blocks of that person's
personality type to give them their own
individual approach. In the end, every
man that achieves true success with
women will end up with his own UNIQUE
style anyway.
Wherever you go, there you are.
In the Tao of Jeet Kune Do, Bruce Lee's
book on his philosophy of fighting arts,
he talks about the six diseases that
plague us. I think they are
frighteningly relevant to the art of
attraction and pickup, and so I offer
them to you here.
Consider also that following any one
"system" is only a stepping stone to
greater growth. In fact, if you follow
any particular system of pickup or
seduction (or whatever you choose to
call it), then you are also using a
'technique,' but in a much larger sense.
You're using one BIG technique.
Now, the six 'diseases':1) "The desire for victory."
Ah, how this plagues so many men. The
need for results and desire for women
puts us in a dangerous head space. We
must let go of attachment to results,
but pursue them to a conclusion.
2) "The desire to resort to technical
cunning."
Again, too strong an attachment to a
technique fails to grasp the
understanding that we must all CUSTOMIZE
our approach to our R.E.A.L. selves.
3) "The desire to display all that has
been learned."
Wow. I have to raise my hand at that
one. I've done this a lot. You learn a
ton of clever stuff, and you gotta
unload it. In the end, you probably
could have done without it all. You just
act from the confidence that HAVING it
means you don't have to USE it.
4) "The desire to awe the enemy."
This would be all of us. What guy hasn't
let his ego creep into his approach or
interaction with a woman and ruin things
by being the braggart or boaster? Just
Relax and let her discover you. Not get
overwhelmed by you.
5) "The desire to play the passive
role."
We, as men, must be the initiators. I
know there's a ton of clever stuff out
there that appeals to a guy's desire to
not approach or not take action to get
women attracted to him, but the REALity
persists. You must be the one to take
action. Initiate. It's your destiny and
your birthright. Don't shirk it.
6) "The desire to get rid of whatever
disease one is affected by."
This one is the toughest to understand,
in that Zen koan sort of way. I think
what is meant by this is that to
succeed, you can't be constantly
wrestling with your weaknesses. You
can't let go when you're trying to get
rid of them.
You must simply dilute them with the
power of your strengths. I think that a
big part of this thinking is that if I
focus too much on overcoming my
weaknesses, I succumb to them.
Take that with a grain of common sense.
Desire is a part of human nature. But in
the end. you will only be as successful
to the degree that you LET GO, not cling
desperately to your 'style' or your
'techniques' or your methods.
Remember, long after all the clever
lines and approaches have been exposed,
your authenticity and REAL character
will never be out of style or a
liability. You can't get CAUGHT if
you're being YOU.
Get REAL. BE real.
For more information on how to get this
attitude, have a look here
Stay Alpha...!
- Carlos Xuma
PS: I know that a lot of guys read this
information and they find themselves
nodding at it, but reluctant to take the
first step in learning the technical
skills. Well, I'm taking all the risk
for you.
Any product you try from me is
unconditionally guaranteed. You'll love
the information AND see a difference in
your dating life, or you will get a no
hassle refund.
information and they find themselves
nodding at it, but reluctant to take the
first step in learning the technical
skills. Well, I'm taking all the risk
for you.
Any product you try from me is
unconditionally guaranteed. You'll love
the information AND see a difference in
your dating life, or you will get a no
hassle refund.
.
Click here to manage your subscriptions
--
Jorgeus George
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